Perspective - How to break out the Incel depression
I've seen a lot of discussion here and often people ask how to change their mindset and improve their life so they don't have to rely on incel ideology as a defence mechanism/coping blanket (or at least that is often how these conversations end up). So I thought I'd share my own advice on it from someone who feels very sympathetic - albeit someone who finds the lack of debate frustrating. Maybe it'll help. Maybe it won't.
- Accept that rejection is normal without turning it into a worldview.
- You get back what you give out. But it won't be consistent. Bad things happen unfairly and so tmdo good things. But attitudes shape lives.
- Stop treating women as a single group - judge people individually. Everyone is different.
- Spend less time in outrage-driven forums and algorithms. Look to more healthy outlets instead.
- Exercise, sleep well, and maintain basic routines consistently. It's amazing what that'll do.
- Honestly....avoid doom-focused content about “genetics” or “SMV" or any sort of "maxing". The base idea is sensible but that's not what those influencers are giving.
- Focus on becoming someone you respect, not someone “ranked” by others.
- And importantly? Probably talk to a therapist or support group if anger or hopelessness feels consuming.
- There's also the old adage. Loneliness is common but hatred is learned. Both can be fixed.