I could not have a partner who can't take a non- offensive or directed arguement and go into defense mode.
Maybe this isn't very INFJ of me, maybe it's because of my neurodervigency causing my social understandings to be lacking... Or I'm just surrounded by insecure people, I don't know.
I just had a short conversation with my mom, I started cooking and she started helping once I stepped out, then I stepped back in cuz she was about to season and I told her that I wanted to season, because I like my own seasoning better.
apparently my attempt at being familiar failed cuz she got offended and was like "so you hate all my cooking?"... No, I don't. I love your cooking. I just spesifically love spesific seasoning on tomato sauce better than others, while you prefer those other seasonings.
Now knowing my mom, having lived 20 years under the same roof as her I should have known, and maybe I already kind of did, that it would offend her, but still I guess I kind of wish she wasn't so... Insecure? So I said it anyway.