u/AnalElegant4505

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Sober but not enough

I’m struggling with the mixed signals of a years long separation. I’ve gotten sober and addressed what I thought was our main issue, but now I’m being told I ‘don’t do enough’ as a husband. Since she is the one who moved out but claims she still does everything for me, I’m at a loss for what my role and boundaries are actually supposed to be at this stage."

​How do you define "husband duties" during a legal separation? Im paying child support and cant have my kiddo with me.

​Has anyone else experienced "moving goalposts" after getting sober?

​I go to AA, counseling, group therapy to stay sober, work full time. I spend more time at her house than I do my own. I neglect my home duties to sit on a couch at her house so i can spend some time with her and my kid, but thats not enough. Im not husband enough, she left me, I dont get any benefits while she has full legal authority over me. I dont get a wife, but im supposed to be a husband? Help me understand. Rant over.

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u/AnalElegant4505 — 6 days ago