Is my ex a creep or is it just because I’m aroace ?
So I posted back in November on this subreddit about my ex (who was my current bf at the time) saying that I was uncomfortable dating him because, well, I discovered I was on the aroace spectrum and I was in fact not in love with him. (Or at least I didn’t want the type of relationship he wanted). I broke up with him and everything went fine (at least for me) and we‘re still close friends even though I’m always a bit uneasy when I’m alone around him.
Several weeks ago, after school, he sent me this message : « You looked beautiful today. »
I must state, before anyone asks, that during the time of our relationship he maybe complimented me once or twice but never something so straight to the point. And I made it clear that there was no chance of going back together.
This compliment might seems a bit strange but nothing abnormal. However it ruined my mood because of one specific thing :
It was the very first time since like a year that I was wearing a low-cut shirt (nothing too revealing but enough to be something I almost never wear because, as an enby, it makes me uncomfortable).
Besides the fact that it triggered my dysphoria, it made me ask one question : why did he tell me this the exact same day I wore this type of shirt ?
So is it because I’m aroace so it bothers me or is it something actually creepy ? Did that ever happened to you ?