u/Americanincebu1

This is going to be a huge rant and I’m only posting for venting purposes. 31 year old American man lived in the Ph now for about two years. My wife (23F) and I live in Cebu and just had our first baby which is an amazing experience. The weird thing is that as soon as my wife went to the hospital for the baby her sister immediately ran away to Mindanao to avoid the birth. (She had an abortion last year that my wife was with her every step of the way. My wife didn’t know she was trying to cause harm to her own baby just that she met her at the hospital at the time)

Her sister not being there didn’t really bother me because I really didn’t like her anyway. My wife’s family lives in Mindanao (we live in Cebu) and I asked them if they were coming to see my wife and baby. Btw this is their first grandchild. They said they wouldn’t mind coming but they had no money for transportation. Now I give them 10,000 pesos per month for their expenses which enough for at least 50% of their monthly expenses so her father doesn’t even need to work much at all. I said no problem, I will pay for the ferry rides of my wife’s mom, father, brother and other sister. Plus when they arrive I will pay for their Airbnb which is just next to our condo. Plus I would give them 5,000 pesos to get groceries and food for the 6 days they would be here. They agreed.

Now this is where it gets fucked up. So the entire time they barely spent time with my wife in our unit. They basically used the time as an all inclusive resort and enjoyed the pool, the aircon (they basically live in a hut in the province) and went to Lapu Lapu to visit their other family members.

Long story short I basically called them out and asked why they were doing this and they brushed it off and felt so offended and now their whole family hates me and disowns my wife. When I called the first meeting to go over any miscommunication my wife’s father didn’t even show up. I’m the reason that mfer doesn’t even have to work much anymore and he can’t even show his face to me. I have been nothing but good to my wife’s family and they basically treat us like shit. I understand you respect your elders and parents but it’s a two way street. Nobody can tell me Filipinos are family oriented because my American family would never do some shit like that.

End of rant

Update:

She begged her parents for forgiveness, she is defending her parents and now our marriage is probably over so that’s nice. She was in agreement with me at first but then couldn’t stand her parent’s feeling hurt. It just cost her the relationship with her husband and having a complete family with our daughter. But hey, at least her parents won’t feel hurt anymore.