u/Altruistic_Hat1634

Hello,

I am currently a school social worker at an out of district school as part of a nonprofit in New York State. There is a website (OLAS) where you can apply for jobs at the school but it’s a very drawn out application because it’s the one made for a teacher or principal as well. It’s kinda strange but it asks for letters of reference that you upload. I just think it’s weird because I’ve never applied for a job where a letter is uploaded and essentially I think anyone could alter it. When I was in college and we needed letters of recommendation it was sent right to the admissions office via a special link or emailed by the recommender. 

I put slots in for who my references are who are all 100% positive but I’m left out the letters section. Is that a red flag or is it 100% required? Thanks in advance for any guidance! 

my husband asked me what i wanted on Friday. I want a massage but getting a gift card for one is lame becuase it’s on me to plan when we are both free so I can go and he can stay with the toddler. I also have specific people I want. he came back from work on Saturday and asked if we were going dinner. most places would need a reservation, it’s crowded and taking a toddler out to eat is kinda hectic. I told him I was going to go out alone and tomrrow we would do some family things and spend time with my mom. He totally lost it and thought I was being crazy and selfish. I went to go order take out and he wanted to place his order. I told him they can figure our dinner, take our was for me and I cook daily. He got more mad with that. Toddler was hungry and fussy so I ended up making salad and fried rice for them but I when out for my me time for takeout and I’m pretty sure they are not going to ear what I made anyway since he was mad at me.

Am I the ass for not getting them takeout/going alone when I wanted it as a special treat for me for all I do?