New dad here. I have a 1 year old daughter and a 7 week old son.
My wife and I recently moved to a new state for my job, and while we get settled, we’re staying with her family. I’m genuinely grateful we have a place to stay.
But I want to admit something that makes me feel selfish even saying it.
My wife and I are always cleaning, cooking, and helping around the house. Meanwhile, when one of my kids cries, my wife’s aunt is always the first one there to comfort them.
I know she means well, and I appreciate the love she gives my kids. But honestly, it frustrates me sometimes because I want to be the one comforting my own children. I already feel pulled away handling responsibilities, so when my baby cries and someone else steps in before I can, it hurts more than I expected.
I don’t want less help. I just wish the help was more with the chores and house stuff so my wife and I could spend more time actually being parents.
Am I wrong for feeling this way?