To give you a bit of a background on what I'm talking about and why I'm so confused, I grew up in the US with my mother, brother, and sister. I was kind of in a bubble in America because I always had my electronics with me and never really did anything other than watch YouTube and play Roblox, never really noticing what was occurring around me. One year, when I turned 13, my brother, my twin sister, and I went to India on what was supposed to be a vacation, but we got trapped there due to visa issues, so I've been staying here for 3-4 years. My mother had a job in the US, and so my siblings and I stayed with our uncle and our grandparents (to clarify, my uncle owns the house, so if anything, HE'S taking care of my grandparents.) My uncle is sort of my role model in a way, he kind of popped my bubble and made me into an actual functioning human being instead of just being an absolute chud all my life.
Now, to move on to why I'm actually typing this, I think my mother is either very manipulative or just a plain narcissist. I've asked my friends, and most of them have agreed with my views, but I still can't tell for certain, so I decided to ask the internet (if anybody sees this in the first place.) I've sort of viewed my mother in some kind of limelight all my life up until this point, but my brother was on the verge of hating her. He'd tell me he couldn't take it anymore and that she's so difficult to deal with, and, granted, I should've taken that as a warning, but honestly, I thought he was overreacting. While he was dealing with my mom, he would talk to my dad, who left when we were around three (my sister and I), to calm his nerves, but more on that later. When my brother left for college, he blocked my mom and started talking to our dad A LOT more and learning a lot more about why he left us. More on that later, too; let's first get to my mom.
The moment my mom came to India, she started fat-shaming my sister, which, by the way, she isn't. She's skinnier than fat, honestly. She just has a bit of flab on her belly. My sister, one day, crashes out and starts crying because she's a sensitive teenage girl. My mother turns the situation on its side, however, and starts painting my sister in a bad light, and starts telling us what she's gone through (our dad leaving us yadayadayada), and that nobody would love us as she does, etc. I step in and try to argue for my sister because I think that's utter bullshit, but for some reason, she treats me like my opinion doesn't matter. If I say something, she always double-checks with my sister and treats me like I'm a toddler learning how to go potty whenever I do something, even a bit impressive (or not impressive at all, depending on how you look at it). I remember I wrote this essay for school, and stated a simple fact about the topic I was writing the essay on, and she started saying stuff like "oh my god, it's a shock you can even do this," and it would be the most SIMPLE fact ever. So you would think that she'd also treat what I'm saying like nothing, like she always does, but no, instead of that, this time she says that she'd KILL HERSELF if I didn't stop and she had this look on her face, it looked like she had nothing but pure hatred for me and my sister, and she'd continue making the face and telling us that she'd kill herself if we don't stop opossing her. I also don't get the best grades, so she'd also put me as a failure for the future, and that I'm going to have to live with my siblings now in the mix. She does a lot of other bs, but honestly, I'm writing this in a rush so I can get it done before she comes back from her meeting, so I'll go over the worst one:
This is probably the worst she's done. My sister goes for runs, and every day she sees this old man who waves to her and says hi. He seems friendly enough, right? My sister takes a break for a few days because of period cramps and starts to go on a run again. She sees the old man on her first day back, and the old man starts saying creepy shit, as I missed you and that you should never stop running again, and he'll keep track of if she's running or not, but my sister brushes it off as him just being friendly (she isn't very socially inept, I'd say), and she goes on to continue her run. Fast forward to the next day, he stops her, asks what number villa we live in (we live in the same community), and asks for her name. Then, he kisses her on the cheek, ok a bit weird, but maybe just being friendly, kisses her all around her face, then kisses her on the lips (her first kiss, btw), and she runs back home, not even knowing if the old man was being creepy or not, and tells me the story, telling me she's afraid to tell Amma because she doesn't know how she'll react. She musters up the courage, tells her, and before I go on, let me tell you that my sister has a nervous tic that whenever she's nervous she starts to smile. MY MOM KNOWS THIS. My sister starts smiling while telling the story, and my mother calls her a skank for smiling even though she ALREADY she knew she had a nervous tic. She then downplays the problem by saying she's overreacting, by saying she's gone through the same things, and it's a thing all women go through. My uncle, being the chad he is, starts yelling at Amma, telling her it's not a small issue, and he needs to get it sorted. My uncle, for some reason, doesn't see my mother in the way I'm currently viewing her, but I think that's because she's his sister and he sees her in a limelight like i did, except more severe.
My mom has a lot of stories like this, but I don't have a lot of time and have a lot of stuff to cover. Our thought process was that she acts this way because of our dad and that she was better before the sudden divorce, but I've been speaking to my dad and brother a lot more lately and found out she was the same, if not worse, during their time together. Always emotionally manipulating him and putting herself on some pedestal while putting him down, as he did to us. He tells me it's worse than what we've gone through, and although he wasn't there for most of my life, and it's still fucked up, he wasn't in contact with us. I've got a bit of a bond with him now, and I've forgiven him, but he and my brother won't even tell me the stories till I turn 18, so honestly, I'm scared to know what she did do.
Anyways I just wanna know if I'm overreacting and she's actually normal, or I'm right for thinking she's a narcissistic bitch. Sorry if it seems the grammar is off or if it doesn't really make much sense; this was really rushed.
*Couldn't add this then, she also brings up my bad qualities whenever she loses an argument and says she's just trying to fix them and improve my future, even if the subject we're arguing about doesn't help at all and is something that makes no sense.