I just got out of a relationship and I'm still processing everything. Thought posting would help.
During the relationship, I paid for almost everything (trips, flights, hotels, luxury dinners, shopping, etc). I even paid for a Maldives trip and spent around 300,00THB, plus a Chiang Mai trip and so many other things. Altogether, it was hundreds of thousands of THB in just a few months.
But no matter what I did, she kept saying I never gave her anything.
I gave her the Maldives trip as a Valentine's Day gift, and she literally said, “Trip is not a gift.” Then she asked me, “What have you ever given me since we started dating?”
I also bought her Chanel shoes as a birthday gift. But when we argued, she told me, “Don’t think buying me one pair of Chanel shoes means you can control my life.” She even said I should just keep the shoes because she already has many pairs already.
She also asked me for money to get double eyelid surgery in Shanghai, and then talked about going to Korea for a facelift, expecting me to pay for everything.
That honestly made me realize how one-sided everything was.
For the flights I got her economy seats, and after the trip she complained and said none of her exes ever made her sit in economy and that she’s used to better.
She constantly expected more and when I couldn’t meet those expectations, she made me feel like I wasn’t good enough.
Whenever I asked simple things like whether she was going out partying, she would get angry and say I was controlling her. But at the same time, she parties heavily, drinks a lot, and even got involved with drugs. She even asked me to help buy drugs for her, which really crossed the line.
No matter how much I gave, it was never enough. I ended up feeling like I was the problem, even though I was the one giving everything.
And the craziest part? She told me, “It’s your loss, not mine.”
But now I finally understand. I wasn’t losing her. I was losing myself.
I’m still hurt and I can’t sleep, but deep down I know walking away was the right call.