Did I come out as desperate??
Back in November 2025, a guy messaged me on Instagram. I realized he was older than me(The age gap is pretty concerning imo) and left him on seen. About two weeks later, I felt bad because it seemed rude, so I replied and we had a short conversation. After that, I kind of expected him to message again, but he didn’t.
Then in January 2026, he replied to one of my stories and we had a really good conversation. But again, after that, he stopped messaging. Since then, it’s been the same he only ever replies to my stories or notes occasionally. We’ve had some genuinely good conversations, and it felt like there was a connection. I assumed that he did like me(romantically or not) by his replies.
The issue is that he never actually starts conversations. It’s always either him replying to something I post, or me messaging first. I’ve noticed that I’ve started posting more stories/notes just to get his attention, which makes me feel kind of weird about myself.
And there is some other stuff that happened when we were texting(kinda creepy ngl) that Im not sharing cos who knows he might be lurking on reddit.
When I do message him first, he replies normally and seems engaged, so I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if he’s just not that interested.
What do you think this means? And what should I do?
PS: Im a firm believer that guys should initiate convo and make the first move. Ik this sounds misogynistic but what to say Im heavily influenced by movies and tv shows.