u/Alive-Tourist-2376

So I work for a shitty credit card company as a call center agent. We can’t get any time off within the first 90 days and I hate this place so much. It’s Mother’s Day and I’m dreading the start of my shift, so I want to call in and request bereavement.

All associates get up to 10 days of bereavement, but the handbook states there’s a possibly I can be asked for proof such as an obituary or letter from a funeral home.

Anyone in here know of/have a funeral home willing to draft a letter? I hate this job so much I’m contemplating photoshopping an old obituary that I have.

Any tips on how to generate legitimate proof to get out of work would be appreciated.

So I purchased a Lego build off Etsy and the seller only included a PDF version of the parts list. Most of the websites like BrickLink only accept CSV or XML files.

I’ve already reached out to the seller to get the parts list in another file type, but if they don’t respond, does anyone know if there’s a specific program that I can use to convert the PDF to an appropriate file type?

Today I was car shopping with my dad. To preface, I’ve told my dad I’m a trans woman, but he’s in denial in my opinion. Today we went and looked at a car that I was possibly interested in financing.

We get to the part of the deal where we have to go back into the office and go over financial info with the dealer. The lady starts asking for my personal information. I give her my new name, and I could tell my dad was puzzled because I didn’t give her my dead name, but he didn’t say anything. I caught him staring at his phone screen, but he wasn’t even clicking anything on the phone. I think he was shocked.

I watched the dealer enter my gender as “male” (simply because my dad kept referring me as his son) into the computer, but once I handed her my ID, she switched my gender to “female” in the computer and said, “We just have to make sure the information matches for legal purposes.”

My dad looks up from his phone quizzically and says, “what information?” The dealer replies by saying, “we have to make sure the gender is female.”

At that moment he seemed stunned and didn’t know what to say. He tried to play it off but I think he was a bit uncomfortable and caught off guard. The dealership happened to be in Alexandria, KY, so I was already a little Leary about what to expect, but surprisingly she was genuinely kind and encouraging in the moment. She started talking about how she had a non binary friend and that her friend just found out they were expecting a child with their partner, which helped me get through the uncomfortable moment.

I’ve told him I’m trans before but I feel like no one in my family is hearing me or seeing me for who I am. I’ve been on HRT for almost 3 years. I’m very feminine presenting and never get misgendered in public, so I know my family sees my femininity, they just don’t want to accept it. My dad isn’t a bad man. He’s always been there to support me, when I came out as gay and I know deep down inside he still loves me as trans, it’s just frustrating that he still doesn’t get it and still misgenders me and calls me “him” “his son.” I know it’ll take time, but it’s frustrating when everyone else in the world can see you for who you are expect your own family.

What makes the situation even more funnier is that my sister is currently pregnant. When my sister announced her pregnancy to my family, my parents were like, “we knew you were pregnant, we know our child!”

It’s funny how parents claim to know their children so well, yet when it comes to anything LGBTQ related, they act like it doesn’t even exist.

Like I said, my family aren’t bad people, it’s just frustrating sometimes being trans and black.

So I’m a 29 year old trans woman. I’ve been on HRT for almost 3 years. Dating is a struggle, so I often find myself resorting back to Grindr when I get horny and desperate for attention.

Back in January, this sexy 25 year old South African boy messaged me on Grindr. He was about 12 miles away, which was somewhat close to me and I was horny that night. I’m at an age where I’m over hookups and ready to settle down, and I know nothing serious is likely to come from Grindr, but at the same time, I’m a trans woman and I have needs that need to be fulfilled. The guy didn’t have a real profile pic, just something vague like a silly meme, so his profile wouldn’t have even caught my interest, however I’m assuming he liked my profile pic because he sent real pics of himself through direct message and said hey. He was a sexy brown skin man, tall, slender and packing. This man had a third leg.

Long story short I invited him over that same night and we had sex. He was so cute in the face, but the sex was trash. I’m a bottom and I would consider him a “minute man” because he came faster than a Little Caesar’s pizza.

We continued fucking a few more times, but quickly red flags started to pop up in my head. The first red flag came a few weeks after we first fucked. I messaged him asking if he wanted to come back over to my place again and he replied by saying he was done with me any my “lifestyle.”

I was instantly hurt because he made it seem like my lifestyle was toxic and not good for him. At this point, I was determined to forget about him, but then he apologized and said he was going through personal stuff and wanted to “talk.”

Reluctantly, I allowed him back over into my apartment, to hear him out and see what he had to say. He came over in the middle of the night right before his shift, apologized for what he said about my “lifestyle” stating he was going through depression and some other personal things over the course of the past few weeks which led him to make that statement.

Against my better judgement, I slept with him again. About a month after our most recent link up, he randomly messaged me on Grindr, letting me know he felt guilty about some things and wanted to be honest with me. He ended up telling me that he had a girlfriend and felt bad about lying to me about it for so long. He basically wanted to let me know he had a girlfriend and was trying to find a reason to break up with her. He said he’s Bi and that his family/culture does not accept homosexuality and will cut him off.

I’m conflicted because I really like him and I think like he likes me too, he’s just afraid to be disowned by family and friends if they find out he’s bi. If he was happy with his GF, he wouldn’t be cheating on her on Grindr right? I know this guy and I met on Grindr and our situationship started off as just sex, but I’ve grown feelings from him quickly. I enjoy being around him and it’s not about the sex (like I said, he’s a minute man lol). Do I sound delusional or dickmatized?

Deep down inside, I feel like I deserve more, but I also wanna see him again. I texted him yesterday and he responded. I told him I missed him and asked if he still has a GF and he said “yes I’m still with her,” so I never replied back. What should I do?