u/AlgorithmHelpPlease

I was wondering if anyone had figured out how to do boolean searches on LinkedIn or TotalJobs? These sites seem pretty unusable for jobs searches when you're just plastered with hundreds of pages of irrelevant results and I usually used AND/NOT operators to filter down on Indeed and other websites but LinkedIn & TotalJobs don't seem to accept them (or don't process them properly).

I've also tried things like the "-" but that doesn't seem to work either. Some sites (eg. the dwp job search site) have 'advanced search' which allows exclusion which is at least workable, though more restrictive than my desired use case, but using LinkedIn & TotalJobs seems unbearable without proper search parameters.

Why would they not include these options? Am I missing something?

(Also afaik it doesn't even work switching to LinkedIn's non-AI search mode)

I am asking for advice about what services I should contact when my partner has been repeatedly (and recently worsening) desires to commit suicide?

Background:

My partner and I have been together for 4 years. When we agreed to this we both knew about one another's struggles with mental health issues, my own dealings with which are largely behind me and pretty well managed, even now. The management of their issues at the time seemed pretty good too, and though I knew there were still issues (self-harm, depression, OCD, minor ED issues, anxiety), I was happy to become long-term with them.

Over the course of our partnership their mental health has deteriorated quite a lot, they've dealt with a lot, surrounding issues at university, and lack of thorough mental health support. As well as us now being in a very difficult temporary living situation. Despite this I wish to remain with them and am trying my best to support them; the motivation for this post is primarily that of what I should do in the current situation, so I will not be discussing significantly the details, but it is relevant to note they do not have any proper psychiatric or therapeutic support despite repeated attempts to access services, so similar work often falls to me.

We both suspect they have a PD (likely akin to AvPD, though it seems specific diagnoses no longer exist in the UK). They have no friends other than myself and often rely on me for various "life administration" tasks (emails, calls, etc.), though I should stress they can still dress, wash, and cook.

Current situation:

Recently the threats of self-harm and suicide have been getting far worse. It's easily over half of days and though they don't cut as much as they used to they now try to give themself head trauma, and repeatedly threaten to do things that would require emergency support. I often get very concerned in these situations and feel that in the moment I should call 999, but when I pick up the phone they get terrified of me doing so. They've never done anything life threatening yet but I am concerned that they may do so soon. They find helplines (eg. Samaritans) very patronising and difficult, and more harmful than helpful as they don't feel like anyone listens (this is a repeated issue for them when trying to access healthcare).

I'm trying to do what I can, but this is becoming increasingly stressful and straining for me too. They're often outwardly verbally quite mean to me when they get into one of their bad states, though I understand they don't mean it, and say that deep down I must hate them and that everyone leaves them eventually (not just relationship-wise, but in terms of friends too). Despite all this I still love them and wish to continue supporting them but I genuinely don't know what to do. I feel like I am not the best placed to support them and they'd be better with real professionals looking out for them, and this current situation is hurting me. I was wondering if there's a service I can contact to raise a concern about their wellbeing and safety with local services but I don't seem to be able to find anything (NHS either redirects to helplines, or if it's serious enough you should just go to A&E). I personally find this very exhausting and when that occurs feel I am not in the best place to continue to provide the support they need.

If they ever did something I would take them to A&E immediately, but it seems as though the NHS and online services basically just recommend that right up until that point people around someone should try to support them, instead of taking any medical intervention themselves. This feels irresponsible and not very feasible, I was wondering if anyone had any advice around this.

(btw they've previously shown clear evidence of their self-harm to the NHS but it's never been taken seriously and has always been brushed off as though they'd never escalate the situation, as such it seems unlikely the NHS would act on any current evidence)

Also we're in England, which I understand may be relevant for what services are available for us to access. I'm mostly looking for what I can do for them, but if there's also something I can access just so I know I'm not the only one responsible at this time then that would be a great help too.