So I’ve been limerent a couple of times, and for the last 3 years on and off for the same person.
I’ve also had somewhat normal healthy attachment (anxious naturally) and healthy-ish relationships, and I’ve also at times felt avoidant or quickly lose interest in someone I did have feelings for.
Now I’m dating again, and I’m met with some people I really get on with, have sexual attraction to, and who seem to like me but I can’t tell how I feel.
I’m interested in seeing them again but I also feel so not attached to any outcome. I don’t feel a gush of excitement or any rumination or replaying of conversation/sex/time together etc.
and it’s so boring I can’t lie. Is this how normal people build attachment and interest in people? lol. How do I know if I like someone if I’m not pulling my hair out obsessing over them?