u/Alas-my-children

I’ve been going here for a year now. No issues so far I complete my obligations and also try to find work both online and in person.

Suddenly a few days ago the girl got upset with me because “I couldn’t contact you” for a job she wanted to refer me for. And she blamed it on me not signing the privacy forms.

I told her I wanted to maintain my privacy and said I would have been happy to be contacted for that job, and that I thought they had my phone number. And then I said “here I’ll give you my phone number and you can contact me if anything comes up in the future”

She said “no that’s not how it works” and then said she is going to send me to a different provider which is a long way from where I live. But I guess not instantly, because she booked me weekly appointments with her from now on, so I have to see her again this week.

This all happened after I told her I had indeed travelled far out of my way to hand in my resume in person to a couple business she recommended. So it felt like a weird slap in the face.

If they are forcing me to sign optional privacy forms before they are willing to help me find a job, this sounds like a problem of their own making.

I don’t want to switch providers and I don’t want weekly appointments. Any advice?

I understand that loving yourself is an important first step. But I also just feel like I want to be useful to someone, and to love a person who can actually grow while we are together, as opposed to just being 2 ppl who help each other pay the bills and have intercourse.

I guess it just makes friendships and relationships feel more meaningful to me, if the person is NOT an already complete and near perfect person with everything running smoothly.

And that doesn’t mean I want to enable ppl to stay problematic. I want to grow with someone and help each other to live better lives. And then if we chose to stay together or part ways, I’m happy either way.

I also understand the concept that you shouldn’t love bomb people or have a one sided relationship, where you only exist to “rescue” them and maybe parent them in ways they don’t even want.

A relationship should not necessarily be a “co dependency” I do also understand that.

But yes, if I’m completely honest, I am more drawn towards people who I like, but who also are struggling (maybe even severely struggling) with some aspects of life.