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Anyone knows a good marriage/couple counsellor in Lahore or nearby? Someone who has genuinely got good results from counselling… please help

Anyone knows a good marriage/couple counsellor in Lahore or nearby? Someone who has genuinely got good results from counselling… please help

Anyone knows a good marriage/couple counsellor in Lahore or nearby? Someone who has genuinely got good results from counselling… please help

Main apni shaadi ke baare mein ek bohat personal baat share kar rahi hoon kyun ke ab waqai rehnumai aur duaaon ki zarurat mehsoos ho rahi hai.
Meri shaadi ko taqreeban 4.5 saal ho chuke hain. Shuru se hi hamare darmiyan masail rahe, lekin maine kabhi haar nahi maani. Hamesha yeh socha ke har shaadi mein mushkilaat aati hain aur agar insaan sabr kare, compromise kare aur khud ko badle to waqt ke saath sab behtar ho jata hai.
In saalon mein maine waqai apni poori koshish ki. Apna rawaiya badla, expectations kam ki, baar baar communication ki koshish ki aur har dafa yeh umeed rakhi ke shayad ab halaat badal jayen. Lekin itne saal guzarne ke bawajood bunyadi masail aaj bhi wahi hain aur emotionally main bohat akela mehsoos karti hoon.
Hamari natures bohat mukhtalif hain. Taqreeban har baat par difference of opinion ho jata hai. Choti baat discussion se argument aur phir huge fight ban jati hai. Us ke baad kai kai din ki khamoshi aur doori shuru ho jati hai. Aksar 4–5 din guzar jate hain aur phir akhir kar sulah ke liye mujhe hi aagay barhna parta hai. Yeh cycle repeat hote hote main andar se bohat thak chuki hoon.
Ek bara masla boundaries ka na hona bhi hai. Mere husband hamari personal baatein aur ghar ke masail apne father ke saath share karte hain. Phir mujhe taanay sunne partay hain, criticism hoti hai aur jab main hurt feel karti hoon to kaha jata hai “woh to mazaak tha”.
Unki 2 sisters qareeb rehti hain aur shuru se hamare ghar ke mamlaat mein kaafi involved rahi hain. Bohat se decisions jo sirf husband aur wife ko mil kar lene chahiye, woh akhir kar father ki approval ke baad final hote hain. Is situation mein mujhe aksar lagta hai ke meri apni shaadi mein meri jagah aur meri awaaz bohat kam reh gayi hai.
Main financially independent hoon. Mujhe apne husband se paison ki zarurat nahi hai. Mujhe sirf emotional support, attention, appreciation aur validation chahiye. Lekin woh khud kehte hain:
“Main emotionally expressive nahi hoon, yeh meri nature ke khilaaf hai. Main physical aur financial responsibilities nibha sakta hoon lekin emotional expression mushkil hai.”
Yeh baat mere liye bohat painful hai kyun ke main unki appreciation aur validation ko bohat crave karti hoon. Log meri personality aur beauty ki tareef karte hain, lekin mere apne husband ki taraf se kabhi woh ehsaas nahi mila ke main unke liye special hoon.
Kabhi kabhi to lagta hai woh mujh se avoid karte hain. Logon ke darmiyan woh bilkul different, talkative aur cheerful hote hain, lekin mere saath aa kar bilkul mute ho jate hain. Hamare paas baat karne ke liye koi common topics nahi hote. Aur agar baat hoti bhi hai to aksar kisi teesre shaks ke baare mein hoti hai, hamare baare mein nahi.
Main hamesha ghar bachane ki koshish karti rahi hoon. Khamoshi ikhtiyar ki, sabr kiya, khud ko samjhaya ke waqt ke saath sab theek ho jayega. Lekin ab constant mental stress aur emotional thakan ne mujhe is point par la diya hai jahan separation ka khayal seriously zehan mein aa raha hai.
Meri sab se bari confusion yeh hai:
Kya mujhe aur sabr karna chahiye?
Kya log waqai badal jate hain?
Kya itne saal koshish ke baad bhi wait karna chahiye?
Ya apni mental aur emotional health ko priority dena ghalat nahi hoga?

Main apni shaadi ke baare mein ek bohat personal baat share kar rahi hoon kyun ke ab waqai rehnumai aur duaaon ki zarurat mehsoos ho rahi hai.
Meri shaadi ko taqreeban 4.5 saal ho chuke hain. Shuru se hi hamare darmiyan masail rahe, lekin maine kabhi haar nahi maani. Hamesha yeh socha ke har shaadi mein mushkilaat aati hain aur agar insaan sabr kare, compromise kare aur khud ko badle to waqt ke saath sab behtar ho jata hai.
In saalon mein maine waqai apni poori koshish ki. Apna rawaiya badla, expectations kam ki, baar baar communication ki koshish ki aur har dafa yeh umeed rakhi ke shayad ab halaat badal jayen. Lekin itne saal guzarne ke bawajood bunyadi masail aaj bhi wahi hain aur emotionally main bohat akela mehsoos karti hoon.
Hamari natures bohat mukhtalif hain. Taqreeban har baat par difference of opinion ho jata hai. Choti baat discussion se argument aur phir huge fight ban jati hai. Us ke baad kai kai din ki khamoshi aur doori shuru ho jati hai. Aksar 4–5 din guzar jate hain aur phir akhir kar sulah ke liye mujhe hi aagay barhna parta hai. Yeh cycle repeat hote hote main andar se bohat thak chuki hoon.
Ek bara masla boundaries ka na hona bhi hai. Mere husband hamari personal baatein aur ghar ke masail apne father ke saath share karte hain. Phir mujhe taanay sunne partay hain, criticism hoti hai aur jab main hurt feel karti hoon to kaha jata hai “woh to mazaak tha”.
Unki 2 sisters qareeb rehti hain aur shuru se hamare ghar ke mamlaat mein kaafi involved rahi hain. Bohat se decisions jo sirf husband aur wife ko mil kar lene chahiye, woh akhir kar father ki approval ke baad final hote hain. Is situation mein mujhe aksar lagta hai ke meri apni shaadi mein meri jagah aur meri awaaz bohat kam reh gayi hai.
Main financially independent hoon. Mujhe apne husband se paison ki zarurat nahi hai. Mujhe sirf emotional support, attention, appreciation aur validation chahiye. Lekin woh khud kehte hain:
“Main emotionally expressive nahi hoon, yeh meri nature ke khilaaf hai. Main physical aur financial responsibilities nibha sakta hoon lekin emotional expression mushkil hai.”
Yeh baat mere liye bohat painful hai kyun ke main unki appreciation aur validation ko bohat crave karti hoon. Log meri personality aur beauty ki tareef karte hain, lekin mere apne husband ki taraf se kabhi woh ehsaas nahi mila ke main unke liye special hoon.
Kabhi kabhi to lagta hai woh mujh se avoid karte hain. Logon ke darmiyan woh bilkul different, talkative aur cheerful hote hain, lekin mere saath aa kar bilkul mute ho jate hain. Hamare paas baat karne ke liye koi common topics nahi hote. Aur agar baat hoti bhi hai to aksar kisi teesre shaks ke baare mein hoti hai, hamare baare mein nahi.
Main hamesha ghar bachane ki koshish karti rahi hoon. Khamoshi ikhtiyar ki, sabr kiya, khud ko samjhaya ke waqt ke saath sab theek ho jayega. Lekin ab constant mental stress aur emotional thakan ne mujhe is point par la diya hai jahan separation ka khayal seriously zehan mein aa raha hai.
Meri sab se bari confusion yeh hai:
Kya mujhe aur sabr karna chahiye?
Kya log waqai badal jate hain?
Kya itne saal koshish ke baad bhi wait karna chahiye?
Ya apni mental aur emotional health ko priority dena ghalat nahi hoga?

Main apni shaadi ke baare mein ek bohat personal baat share kar rahi hoon kyun ke ab waqai rehnumai aur duaaon ki zarurat mehsoos ho rahi hai.
Meri shaadi ko taqreeban 4.5 saal ho chuke hain. Shuru se hi hamare darmiyan masail rahe, lekin maine kabhi haar nahi maani. Hamesha yeh socha ke har shaadi mein mushkilaat aati hain aur agar insaan sabr kare, compromise kare aur khud ko badle to waqt ke saath sab behtar ho jata hai.
In saalon mein maine waqai apni poori koshish ki. Apna rawaiya badla, expectations kam ki, baar baar communication ki koshish ki aur har dafa yeh umeed rakhi ke shayad ab halaat badal jayen. Lekin itne saal guzarne ke bawajood bunyadi masail aaj bhi wahi hain aur emotionally main bohat akela mehsoos karti hoon.
Hamari natures bohat mukhtalif hain. Taqreeban har baat par difference of opinion ho jata hai. Choti baat discussion se argument aur phir huge fight ban jati hai. Us ke baad kai kai din ki khamoshi aur doori shuru ho jati hai. Aksar 4–5 din guzar jate hain aur phir akhir kar sulah ke liye mujhe hi aagay barhna parta hai. Yeh cycle repeat hote hote main andar se bohat thak chuki hoon.
Ek bara masla boundaries ka na hona bhi hai. Mere husband hamari personal baatein aur ghar ke masail apne father ke saath share karte hain. Phir mujhe taanay sunne partay hain, criticism hoti hai aur jab main hurt feel karti hoon to kaha jata hai “woh to mazaak tha”.
Unki 2 sisters qareeb rehti hain aur shuru se hamare ghar ke mamlaat mein kaafi involved rahi hain. Bohat se decisions jo sirf husband aur wife ko mil kar lene chahiye, woh akhir kar father ki approval ke baad final hote hain. Is situation mein mujhe aksar lagta hai ke meri apni shaadi mein meri jagah aur meri awaaz bohat kam reh gayi hai.
Main financially independent hoon. Mujhe apne husband se paison ki zarurat nahi hai. Mujhe sirf emotional support, attention, appreciation aur validation chahiye. Lekin woh khud kehte hain:
“Main emotionally expressive nahi hoon, yeh meri nature ke khilaaf hai. Main physical aur financial responsibilities nibha sakta hoon lekin emotional expression mushkil hai.”
Yeh baat mere liye bohat painful hai kyun ke main unki appreciation aur validation ko bohat crave karti hoon. Log meri personality aur beauty ki tareef karte hain, lekin mere apne husband ki taraf se kabhi woh ehsaas nahi mila ke main unke liye special hoon.
Kabhi kabhi to lagta hai woh mujh se avoid karte hain. Logon ke darmiyan woh bilkul different, talkative aur cheerful hote hain, lekin mere saath aa kar bilkul mute ho jate hain. Hamare paas baat karne ke liye koi common topics nahi hote. Aur agar baat hoti bhi hai to aksar kisi teesre shaks ke baare mein hoti hai, hamare baare mein nahi.
Main hamesha ghar bachane ki koshish karti rahi hoon. Khamoshi ikhtiyar ki, sabr kiya, khud ko samjhaya ke waqt ke saath sab theek ho jayega. Lekin ab constant mental stress aur emotional thakan ne mujhe is point par la diya hai jahan separation ka khayal seriously zehan mein aa raha hai.
Meri sab se bari confusion yeh hai:
Kya mujhe aur sabr karna chahiye?
Kya log waqai badal jate hain?
Kya itne saal koshish ke baad bhi wait karna chahiye?
Ya apni mental aur emotional health ko priority dena ghalat nahi hoga?