u/AlarmedLemon1273

I feel like this relationship looks right on paper, but I’m struggling to trust the process. When we’re together, I sometimes overthink and disconnect, but when he leaves, I miss him deeply and want to be with him. I know I care about him, but I’m having trouble staying present instead of worrying about whether he’ll fully commit. How do I let go, trust that what’s meant for me will be mine, and allow the relationship to unfold naturally?

My SP and I have been on and off for a few years. Right now, we’re basically in a FWB situation. He’s very clear that he’s not trying to mislead me or play games, but at the same time, he doesn’t want exclusivity. He also keeps bringing up things like threesomes, which just reinforces that he’s not in a committed mindset.

What confuses me is that I still feel like there’s potential. I’ve seen him engage with content about relationships (like being unsure about wanting one), and I know he did commit briefly to someone before me. That only happened after we had a big fallout, so I keep wondering if the version of him that can commit still exists.

The problem is: I don’t want to cut him off. I enjoy talking to him and being with him, and I’m not in a place where I want to walk away.

So my question is that, is it still possible to manifest commitment in this situation without going no contact? And if yes, what should I actually be focusing on internally to shift this dynamic?

Would really appreciate any advice or success stories.

TL;DR: On/off SP for years, currently FWB. He says he’s not misleading me but won’t commit and brings up threesomes. I don’t want to cut him off, can I still manifest commitment, and how?

PS: yes I used AI to reword this because my thoughts were all over the place lol

My SP and I have been on and off for a few years. Right now, we’re basically in a FWB situation. He’s very clear that he’s not trying to mislead me or play games, but at the same time, he doesn’t want exclusivity. He also keeps bringing up things like threesomes, which just reinforces that he’s not in a committed mindset.

What confuses me is that I still feel like there’s potential. I’ve seen him engage with content about relationships (like being unsure about wanting one), and I know he did commit briefly to someone before me. That only happened after we had a big fallout, so I keep wondering if the version of him that can commit still exists.

The problem is: I don’t want to cut him off. I enjoy talking to him and being with him, and I’m not in a place where I want to walk away.

So my question is that, is it still possible to manifest commitment in this situation without going no contact? And if yes, what should I actually be focusing on internally to shift this dynamic?

Would really appreciate any advice or success stories.

TL;DR: On/off SP for years, currently FWB. He says he’s not misleading me but won’t commit and brings up threesomes. I don’t want to cut him off, can I still manifest commitment, and how?

PS: yes I used AI to reword this because my thoughts were all over the place lol