Am I wrong for not wanting hospital visitors?
I’m due with my first baby soon and my ideal birth/postpartum experience would honestly involve not telling anyone when I’m in labour, having no hospital visitors, and waiting until we’re home and settled before announcing baby has arrived.
My MIL has said she wants labour updates and said “we at least want to visit while baby is in the hospital.” The thing is, my partner and I have been together 13 years and she’s only been to our house once. She also hasn’t checked in on me once during my pregnancy, so it feels strange that there’s suddenly an expectation of immediate access during such a vulnerable time.
I’m not trying to be cruel or keep the baby from family. I just feel like labour, birth, and the first couple of days postpartum are medical/recovery time, and I know I’d be more comfortable resting, learning to breastfeed, and bonding privately before visitors.
Am I being unreasonable for wanting to wait until we’re home and ready before having visitors or announcing the birth?