I stepped in and asked a stranger if the were ok for the first time and I feel like I made everything worse
My husband and I were at dinner and we were seated next to a table where a man was standing over a young woman. The conversation seemed tense and she asked him to lower his voice. He continued speaking loudly, weaponizing therapy speak to tell her she was punishing him for her past relationship, that she couldn’t end the relationship one sided it. He told her ending the relationship required consent from both parties.
Which is when she and I made eye contact, I asked if she was ok she said yes. She looked close to tears so I didn’t say anything else. As they were getting up to leave o asked if she was ok or wanted to sit with us. She thanked me and said she was fine. He took a phone call and stared me dead in the face. I stared back and they left.
He came back into the restaurant without her still on the phone looked around and walked out. He came back a 3rd time walked to our table and started yelling at me to mind my effing business. He says his girls outside upset bc I think he’s abusive. Sir I don’t know you and I do bc if this is how you react to that, that’s telling me everything I need to know. I told him he’s only upset bc someone witnessed his trash behavior and didn’t ignore it. He’s like I can be in her face anytime, as loud as I want she’s my girlfriend. I told him I didn’t make a scene, I didn’t call security and he’s proving my gut instinct of him correct. He continues to yell and then tells me next time I’m ear hustling the consequences will be negative. I said I’d do it again bc if I was in an unsafe situation I’d hope someone would help too.
Now I feel conflicted. Should I have just minded my business. I don’t know how to feel