u/AkindaGood_programer

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months. The relationship has been going decent, I guess...?

She has some personal issues that are not fully clear to me.

My girlfriend really likes spending time with her friends, over me generally... I'll go over a few examples.

1. Lunch: We have the same lunch together, and she's never wanted to eat or do anything with me. She's always wanted to sit/play games with her friends

2: Walking around the school: We used to often walk around the school together. We still do now, but slightly less. I usually have to search for her while she's walking with her friends. Sometimes I manage to get her to walk with me, but others not. When we come back from lunch, usually me, her, and one of her close girl friends walk with us.

I always try to walk next to her so I can be closer to her and talk to her more easily. The hallways in my school are pretty small, so we can usually only walk 2 next to each other. She is always in the back with her friend while I try to either squeeze in next to her or walk in front of her friend in hopes she comes up and talks to me. Sometimes when I'm walking in front of the two, I give up and just go to my class.

3. Classes together: This is the least rocky one. We have very few classes together. In the ones we do have, we usually sit together, but sometimes she moves her chair to be closer to her friends and talks with them.

Now the chasing part.

I used to chase her in all these scenarios. Kind of beg for her attention in a way. But recently, after a lot of thinking and reflection, I've decided that it's her life and that she deserves to be with her friends. So I stopped chasing her.

Now, anytime she's with her friends at lunch, I don't try to sit with them and get ignored; I just go by. If she's walking with one of her friends while I'm in the front, I'm going to go to class. Anytime I do this, she just subtly makes a sad face; I know her expressions very well. I know it bothers her just based on her body language.

I'm not doing this to hurt her; I just would rather, instead of chasing and being ignored, sit with my friends and talk with them.

She's mentioned in the past that all she wants to do is steal me and take all my attention. I would honestly be fine with that if she just usually reciprocated. I feel like I'm in the wrong, but I just don't know what to do.

Give me your advice, Reddit.

Me and my GF have been dating for 4.5 months. It's honestly going... okay? She has her own personal problems, and sometimes I feel that the relationship is a bit one-sided (I'm the one always checking up on her, she always gets her way, sometimes it feels like she is not "giving" back what I give, etc).

We've never been the type to call. I've expressed interest in the past, but she seemed hesitant, so I didn't push it. We usually just talk over text.

While we were texting today, she mentioned that she was calling one of her friends, whom she revealed to be a male. I have no problem with her having male friends, but I feel like the thing that gets me is that she calls with him, but not with me.

I don't know, is it really normal to be talking with your boyfriend over text, while on a video call with another guy? I trust her completely, but it seems almost like a red flag.

For anyone who doesn't understand, most boys very rarely get compliments, and usually will remember them for the rest of their lives (or at least a long time).

I'll go first:

8th grade spanish, a girl way way out of my league called me smart. It really effected me mentally, and lowkey changed my path in life.

I have the highest grades in my year, and I hate school so much. The only good part is seeing my friends. Every class is equivalent to watching paint dry. I'm taking all the hardest classes I can, and still everything is a snooze fest.

I'll end up either daydreaming, or thinking about homework I'll have to do during every damn class.

Even the homework is boring, my mind is usually somewhere else while doing it.

Every day, every test, every assignment is like walking through mud.

I don't know what to do. I'm not really burnt out, just bored. I hope things get more difficult or at least more interesting next year...

The only fun class is band...

Is it like this for any of you guys?