Accused: 23 years later still want to lash out
In 2003 when he was 10 years old and my daughter was 4, my son accused me, falsely, of molesting my daughter. I might be able to answer questions but to keep this at reasonable length I’ll simply say that by age 10 my son had made me out to be His Nemesis and never missed an opportunity to ostentatiously disappoint or outrage me. All possible explanations or reasons for that aside, there still sits an aspect of this that I need to get off my chest.
My wife did not tell me about our son’s accusation right away. Instead she went to the police, who instructed her to submit my daughter for a pediatric sexual abuse exam, and to report the situation to county government family services.
My wife informed me of the accusation and the counseling appointment at the same time. She also informed me of the examination she’d submitted our daughter to.
This was a total destruction of any trust I’d ever had for her and there have been plenty of other instances and though we are still married I almost never place myself in a position where I need to trust her.
Sometimes when things get heated I want to throw it in her face and threaten to tell our daughter, who’s now 28, what my wife submitted her to way back then. I’m sure that would hurt my wife and I wouldn’t do that to my daughter but I want to see her face when I make the threat.
I know that’s pointless and that my marriage is a poor one even though we have good times. But I want to scream about it sometimes.