Misunderstandings?
To start off, im a very affectionate person and i express my love from the beginning cause im proud of it because its always genuine, and the guy I’ve been talking to has been love bombed many times but as not to forget we’re long distance so he’s afraid I’ll be unfaithful so he’ll never know, but im not that type of person im strongly against it. But he told me that when someone is affectionate with him he feels like it’s fake and not genuine but when he tries to be affectionate he cringes out sometimes? I didn’t really understand that part cause he was affectionate with me for a good chunk of us talking. But we were talking for a while and we had many things in common and we bonded over it. Then out of the blue he had blocked me I was unaware as to why so I texted him on another app to ask why and he said “i appreciate that, i really do. i understand no one is perfect but that doesn’t mean i can give myself a standard to meet. i’m not very affectionate and ive been that way my whole life, like i can’t even hug my family bc it makes me cringe. and im not trying to attack you as a person but it is just how i feel about this. when i perceive affection from someone else i just think it’s fake or i don’t trust it ig. and that make me feels “over it” is a way to word it. i’ve been with women who’ve lovebombed in a similar way and it’s not something i need to experience again. i’d be more than willing to try it out as friends to game or what not but my brain just doesn’t like the idea of committing to a relationships of this calibre over the phone.” Which I understand and even agreed to talking over the phone to fix things and see what we could do to work something out to where we’re both happy. Then later on he unblocked me, we sort of talked after that? It was more of his friend pretending to be him or something odd like that. But we sort of talked after clearing that up and I had told him I really had to sleep because I had to be up early, he offered to call me and tell me goodnight. But I was still upset about what his friend did so I said “I’d rather it be private” (him and his friend were in the same car coming back from a night out) but to continue on I fell asleep and only got to sleep maybe an hour? After that I got ready and had to deal with some important stuff, I didn’t come home til 1:30 in the afternoon maybe? I told him was exhausted and going to sleep. I told him goodnight and he responded with “goodnight?” I then explained to him why I was busy and tired. To which I was left on delivered for a day, then today I was blocked again. I really don’t know what to do and there’s a good chance he wants something with me but he’s afraid to open up and im unaware on how to go about texting him in a way that he’ll communicate with me. I’m getting mixed signals and don’t know how to go about it, he’s a great guy I just think he has a lot of unresolved trauma and difficulty with affection/intimacy. I’ve told him I’d be more than willing to take things slowly, build a stronger connection first, and see where things go naturally instead of forcing something serious immediately. I also told him that if things ultimately don’t work romantically, I’d rather end on good terms and either stay friends or respectfully go our separate ways if that’s what’s healthiest for both of us. Maybe I’m reading too much into everything, I’m honestly not sure. But the fact that he unblocked me, responded, and continued talking to me at certain points makes me wonder if part of him still does care and wants me around, even if he’s conflicted. How can I go about with sending him a clear and honest message to see if he opens up?