u/Aggravating-Stand800

My husband and I haven’t spoken to my MIL in 3 years because she got drunk and cursed me out 2 weeks after our wedding. She is a drunk and total narcissist. She tried apologizing 1 year later, but when I tried asking her what we did to upset her and have her say those things, she basically told me I was out of line when I said something about her drug addict prostitute daughter (all I said was please don’t involve us in her drama and ask my husband to break up fights with her boyfriend) and how we’re both pieces of shit for not treating his sister right etc. The conversation got nowhere and I realized she basically “apologized” in order to start another fight and tell us we’re the assholes. Since then, she’ll text my husband every once in a while and he’ll either ignore her or give 1 word answers. Well, now I’m pregnant and when it comes to the shower, we both agreed it’s not a good idea to have her there. The problem is, when she finds out about the baby once it’s posted on social media (she has all of my family, his and us on there so she’s going to see it) she will try to weasel her way back in like everything is fine and ask what she can buy the baby and I’m sure even ask if she can help with the shower because she’s delusional and think that since she’s the grandmother she’ll of course be invited. How do we break it to her that she and her daughter won’t be invited? I will tell her she can meet the baby, but my shower isn’t the place for us to see each other for the first time in 3 years.