u/Aggravating-Hour1053

One thing I really don't understand during conversations about parentage and having kids is when people bring up how you'll come to regret not having kids... as if people who do regret having them just... don't exist. Parents who regret having their children absolutely exist and are probably more than likely more common than one thinks, they just don't say so, cause...why would they???

People typically don't openly discuss what they believe to be the worst aspects about themselves and more than likely not very enthusiastic about admitting something like that to anyone out of fear of scrutiny cause honestly... what would you think of someone who told you that? You'd probably IMMEDIATELY assume they're a bad person and even if you don't there are DEFINITELY a whoooole lot of people that do. Sooooo, why would they openly admit to that?

I quite honestly don't really understand why anyone should feel threatened by people who make attempts to "steal" their partner and try their darndest to block any sort of interaction that "may lead to it." Unless you have very superficial/transactional relationship, I don't think really think it should be necessary, and if anything, I'd welcome it.

Personally, I believe people should strive to have a partner who is so enamored by their presence that the mere thought of cheating induces absolute disgust and shame. People should want a partner who is completely devoted to them, and I don't believe that anyone who's like that would even be capable of being unfaithful.

Ultimately, if they decide to go outside of the relationship that's their decision, no one is making them do anything. If someone is attempts to flirt or make moves on them the goal should be to have a partner who you fully expect to be fully capable of flat out rejecting them and rebuffing their advances. (With exception of course, i.e. being afraid to reject someone out of fear they'll violently retaliate, etc. etc.)

I don't really think it makes a difference whether you decide to intervene or not, a cheater will be a cheater regardless and there's not much one can do to stop that. It doesn't matter what the other person did or how charismatic and charming they are or what they are offering, the decision to betray their partners trust is still their own.

Someone could be on a bed spread eagle with a giant sign saying, "Take Me" and I'd still fully expect my partner to be capable of walking away. Human beings are literally the most intelligent species on this planet, we should have full autonomy over the decisions we make. Fully developed human adults typically don't operate on impulse and instinct alone, no matter what anyone says, no one can be "forced" or "made" to cheat.

(And, please don't say or imply that being assaulted in anyway is akin to cheating cause it absolutely is not. And, NO harassment is NOT flirting!)