Why are most db bad partners?
I have worked with a bunch of of different families from babysitting to nannying positions, and have realized that all of the dads are honestly just not good partners of husbands, even if the wife says they are.
A couple of examples from my currently family: mb made a crockpot meal and put it in the fridge for nexts days dinner. Db comes home from work late and ate THE ENTIRE THING. And instead of washing it, leaves the empty crockpot dish in the fridge. Another one is when db was home for the weekend by myself while mb and the kids were at the grandparents. He left the entire house a complete mess and didn’t even do his dishes from the weekend. He also decided to help mb by washing the kids clothes, but didn’t even fold or put them away, just left a huge pile for her as “help.” Yesterday mb says db is cooking chicken but she wants to go check it to make sure it’s good because he doesn’t know how… this man is 2 decades older than me. Last is when mb was going to spend half a day with her friends but had to spend the morning cooking lunch and dinner, washing and picking out clothes, and cleaning the house because it “stresses db out”
In my last position, db “wasn’t a morning person” so would leave everything for the mom to do in the morning, would leave for months at a time for work trips but only have of that time was actually work and the other half was for his personal vacations, and he also didn’t know anything about the kids.
When at the park with all the moms all they talk about is basically how incompetent their husbands are. Honestly working as a nanny has made me not want to get married or have kids anymore because this would truly make me miserable being a single married parent.