My son will be 5 next month. Not diagnosed, but it's present in both mine and my husband's families. He does well in his pre-k class, but he completely lets loose at home. Our biggest issue right now is his language. He's officially in his potty language phase, which is annoying, but I can deal. Unfortunately he heard the f bomb at a family event and he does not hesitate to throw it out at me and my husband when he's dysregulated or upset. He especially loves to yell at us, telling us to shut up and calling us "f'in idiots." We've had a million talks about not using adult language. We've taken his tablet away. But I swear this kid doesn't care about consequences and will straight up laugh in our faces. Trying to hold a conversation about inappropriate behavior when he has settled down is impossible because he will not focus on a conversation for more than 10 seconds it feels.
I've read that ADHD kids can feed even on negative reactions, so I'm at the point now of trying to give little to no reaction when he yells something at us. Or to calmly tell him I won't be around him with that sort of language and to walk away. But part of me feels like this isn't right either, like I'm not doing enough to correct the behavior?
I'm lost and nothing seems to be working. I'm miserable doing this every day. Helppppp.