So my in laws might be coming to the States to live with us for 2-3 months and I am going insane about it. Husband and I live in a 1bhk where the wall of bedroom is not complete (?) like it’s open from the top so there’s no privacy as such. I am a housewife and mostly stay inside. My relationship with my in laws is fine. MIL is really sweet and FIL keeps it to himself. This observation is after I have spent 2-3 weeks with them in my one year of marriage.
Last I visited, I spent 1 week with them alone (husband was in the States) and had my fair share of patriarchal incidents which I mostly ignored as they were related to my dressing sense. Honestly speaking everything is good. Except I love my privacy a lot. Like a lot. My MIL is a talkative person and a pessimist. She only talks about her past and how all her life she focused on family and kids and the health problems the family has which I get it. But every conversation is around that topic, experienced it on calls and during my one week stay. Even my FIL called her out questioning why she keeps talking about negatives to me. Now the thought of having to share the house with her 24*7 and be judged on my dressing sense (she does it subtly) is freaking me out. I won’t even get my me time because of this.
I hate to be the bad person here for my husband. He really wants them to come visit us which is nice but he will leave for the office and he agrees to this fact that I will have to bear some unsolicited advices and opinions and the talk. Idk how to calm my mind and make myself understand that it is not going to be as bad as I am thinking.
If any of you have faced such a scenario how did you handle it. I want to make it work for all of us and not create a mess as they are such nice people and would love to have them around for a while.