How can I know the truth about the person in front of me?
Something just occurred to me ..so
I'm convinced that humans are simply humans, and everyone has a good and a bad side, with one sometimes outweighing the other, or even completely. Despite this, my problem remains My tendency to misjudge people . Some of my friends have a judgmental eye and warn me about certain individuals I initially thought were good, only for it to later turn out that my friends were right.
I want to know if there's a way to learn to discern people. I don't want magic to know their true nature the first time I see them, but at least I want a way to understand. After months of spending time with an abusive person, I wouldn't have realized it was abuse if my friends hadn't told me. And I still sometimes doubt that the person might not be as bad as everyone thinks.
I want to know, if I don't have someone around to warn me, how can I tell if the person in front of me has bad intentions towards me or if I'm just imagining things?