How to deal or what to say to somone who feels cheated on because their partner messed around with someone else soon after a breakup, but then got back together with them?
My partner feels like I did him wrong, and has never been able to get over it. I can see how it would hurt but he has convinced himself that I only broke up with him to mess around with somone else and that is just not true. Since then he has always accused me of sleeping around, swears I’m flirting with all his friends, is absurdly suspicious and will not move forward. He has broken up with me for another woman than taken me back and I didn’t say much about it, but he still won’t let this incident go. He is highly insecure and I am not. He hates if I even put makeup on and accuses me of trying to impress other people or get attention.
We have kids together, and I do love him, but I can’t take the constant accusations and fights that stem from his insecurity’s. He accuses me of being a narcissist which I know I have some traits, i think im “above” some people only because I don’t rely on other peoples validation of me for my self worth. I also can be quite selfish and blunt in telling people when I think they’re wrong. I see many covert narc traits in him but just kinda accept that and try to make progress which he never allows to happen.
Is there anything I can say or do to stop this from ruining our relationship? Because it’s every day this instance is being brought up and he says it’s multiple other things about my behavior but they’re all made up in his head.