Do guys like ambitious girls?
Hi all! I'm a girl and I recently realized that I have more of a masculine personality according to societal norms. I'm extremely ambitious, competitive, and my interests tend to be either very scholarly and generally populated with more men, or hyperfeminine (think fashion, makeup, whatever). While I'm also, in my opinion, funny, smart, and kind, I think those traits are overshadowed by my other traits. From my experience, guys tend to want to be the 'providers' in a relationship, and when they find out the extent of my ambition, they're turned off.
I also don't think it's my looks. Although I obviously won't be everyone's type, I will say that I don't think I'm ugly, and I know guys who have crushes on me, but I fear that they won't like me once they get to know me. I also dress well and am pretty feminine looks-wise.
For some context, I go to a STEM magnet school, so my options are usually smart, so that's not the issue. This is just an assumption, but societal expectations tend to dictate that men are the ones with big, billion dollar business ideas, while women are supposed to stand off to the side and support them, and I think a lot of men do want that (the whole idea of a MRS degree or trophy wives).
Unfortunately for me, I want to be the one with the huge business idea, but I want someone ambitious as well and I don't mind if they're more successful than me. The most important thing to me is that the relationship is equal in terms of ambition and intelligence.
Maybe I'll be able to find someone in the future, but at least for now, it seems to me that most guys want a girl that will support them and their ambitions rather than a girl with her own ambitions. Is this true?