Understanding women and autism
Is it possible that AGP, as it relates to autism, is born out of a) not understanding women, and b) being intimidated by women, because we do not understand them, but long for them, at the same time.
When I look around at the neurotypical world, one thing that strikes me is how men tend to treat women like ordinary people. From my perspective, I'm thinking "can't you see she's a goddess?" To me, women are attractive, generally better natured than men, but I don't know how they think.
I feel like non autistic men genuinely understand how women think better. Of course, they're not 100% sure, and there is a whole "battle of the sexes" thing, but I feel like the average man is at least half way there, while I'm still flailing at the starting line. I think it even relates to my marriage; my wife has complained for years that I don't quite understand her, again, no man does 100%, but I think for me it's especially tough. At the same time, my obliviousness nature might relate to why she felt emotionally safe with me in the first place.
So what I'm supposing is, that creating our own woman, and being sexually intimate with ourselves, might be a coping strategy to the fact that women confuse us so thoroughly. This practice results in a version of a woman that is not confusing to us.
It's really hard to see any of this for what it is, because as is the case with autism, it's not all or nothing, it's more like an extreme version of normalcy. All men are confused by women, but we're very confused. All men are interested in hobbies, but we're very very very interested in hobbies. It's much easier to realize that you're different, than to realize you're well outside of the averages. We can and do often hide it, and pretend that we're normal.
The ironic thing is that, if I'm right, it means that a lot of men who wish to be women, are potentially less qualified to be a woman than an ordinary man who has no such interest at all.
The other implication of this is that, in the way that women confuse me, I'm objectifying them be default - they're a person, but I can't understand them as people. It might be fair to say that I treat them as though they're supreme beings, object-like insofar as a supreme being is an object. I might be guilty of objectification, but it's not born of ill will, it's my limitations.