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I think I’m cutting my family off.
I grew up in a single-parent family and we were POOR poor. The kind of poor where anything above 5k looked expensive. My dad wasn’t a deadbeat though — he paid school fees all the way through university, and I respect him for that.
Eventually I got older, landed my first overseas job, made some decent money, bought my first car, and for the first time in my life I felt like I escaped survival mode.
So naturally I wanted to give back.
I had even set aside around 1.5 million to help my family build something stable.
But the more successful I became, the more I realized something painful:
Nobody around me actually wants independence.
Everyone just wants access to me.
Every funeral contribution? My phone rings first.
Someone in the village is sick? They call me.
Random relatives I never even grew up around suddenly remember I’m “family.”
People who never checked on me now have emergencies every month.
And the craziest part is… I genuinely wanted to help.
But help feels useless when nobody wants to learn skills, grow, build income, or become self-sufficient. Most of the money would disappear into chama contributions, emergencies, and temporary relief — then two months later I’d still be expected to solve everything again.
The only hope I had was my younger brother, but he spends most of his time gaming and avoiding reality. So now I’m sitting here realizing I might actually be alone mentally.
I’m starting to understand why some successful people quietly disappear from their hometowns.
Not because they hate their families.
But because constantly being treated like a walking solution slowly kills your peace.
Has anyone else experienced this after becoming the “successful one” in the family?
I find it interesting how society normalized the idea that “broke boys don’t deserve love,” but the moment men start dating intentionally and asking women what they actually bring into a relationship, suddenly it becomes offensive.
This girl literally stole my number and pushed hard for a relationship. Cool, no problem. We start talking, she tells me she wants something serious and long term, so naturally I start trying to understand her beyond looks and vibes.
I asked a simple question:
“What can we build together? What skills, mindset, value, or energy do you bring into a partnership?”
Nothing.
And somehow I’m the bad guy for being intentional?
I’m not saying every relationship has to be business-oriented or transactional, but I also don’t believe someone should qualify to be your partner simply because they’re single and attractive.
A relationship title alone is not value.
If men are expected to have ambition, direction, money, emotional strength, protection, leadership, and purpose, why is it wrong for a man to also ask:
“What do YOU offer besides wanting the title of girlfriend?”
Modern dating became so focused on what men should provide that asking for mutual value now sounds controversial.