u/Administrative_Elk_8

Hello I am having a real hard time with something that has never happened to me in my (40m) years of living. I am really close with my Sister (38f) and her best friend (38f) and her best friend we will call her Julie was having a birthday party (in April) which I was invited to. I would consider my self a really considerate gift giver and the gifts I give always seem to be really well received. Like I think about what type of wine I would bring to a dinner party and if I really choose which candle would suit the person I am bringing it to. And these are just gifts I would Bring to someone who is inviting me over. Like I feel like I am really considerate when it comes to birthdays and Christmas. This year I got Julie a "Christmas" Theme gift. I got her a stocking full of random ,but thought out things that I knew she would like travel size perfume, purse charm(she mentioned while we were on a trip), Flip 7, A Puzzle in a tube (from Said Trip), a note book (which she raved about on instagram), some of her favourite Candy, and to top it off a Cute (but 80GBP) watch with a teddy bear on the face(which I bought on the same trip). It was something that harkens back to our child hood which I thought would bring her joy. When I walked into the party I saw that guest placed the gift on a table and I had the stocking on the hook which fit to hang at the front of the table. I thought it was funny and whimsical to do this gift presentation in a unique way. Well, as She was opening my gift in front of her guest, everyone was oohing and aching and having fun with the fact that it was Christmas stocking in the middle of April. And with each little gift her face got more and more dissappointing. And the watch was the last thing she opened and she said in front of everyone "I would never wear this!!!". Which broke my heart a little but okay if you choose not to wear its the thought that counts. Well at the end of the night when everyone was leaving I went to give her a hug and wish her good night and she handed me back the entire gift package and told me she didn't want anything in it and didn't "appreicate the gimmicks" and that I should return everything. My heart dropped again and I just walked out holding a Christmas stocking of thought out gifts waiting for my Uber. a week later I told my sister I haven't felt this rejected and humiliated since high school. She told me to get over and that Julie is hard to please. I also heard that Julie was telling people that she didn't appreciate that I presented her gifts in a Stocking. Which I thought was a cute gesture. I also heard that she said I made it about me as I walked in with the stocking and hung it on the front of the table with all the other gifts. I haven't spoken to Julie since. She had asked me for help with moving on the 30th of April and I just told her I was busy that day be it that its mid week. I don't know if I want to even continue this friendship we have been friends for 25 years and I don't know how to even express how It felt when she shoved the gifts back in my arms. The gifts are sitting in my desk (besides the candy) and I don't know what to do about them. like I feel so stupid for trying to be cute and I guess I did make it about me by adding too much personality. I know it's so silly but my heart is broken and it's been over almost a month and I just don't know how to feel about it all. I generally don't have feelings either lol. I just let most things slide and move on with my life but this one kinda hurts. I needed to vent and see what y'all think about this?