I’ve been thinking about this situation non-stop, I cant seem to move on from it even though it happened 3 years ago.
I came out to my whole friend group after high school ended, and ever since then its been weird. My best friend obviously knew before everyone else and it hadn’t become an issue until I told my whole friend group. He started dating this girl who was also in our friend group a couple of months before college started. She wasn’t really much of a talker, real shy girl but I had no issues with her until she started talking about me to my best friend behind my back. One day one of my friends from our friend group showed me a series of texts that contained a conversation between my best friend and his girl friend. I know it was an invasion of privacy on my part but his girl friend sent the texts to my friend, which doesn’t make it better but still, I’m glad to have found out about it. She would question the things we would do all the time like “why is he so close to you” or “why does he call you that” just feeding these false narratives about me saying that I’m getting onto him etc… and he wouldnt defend me at all, just agreeing and siding with her. It honestly felt like a stab in the back. Ever since he started dating the girl, he cut ties with everyone from our friend group and so did she. I remember being there for him after his breakups and when no one else would listen because he was my best friend. But knowing this I didn’t know what to do. He ended up moving out of our dorm and told everyone back home that I was obsessed with him, including the friends he made in college. Its been a couple of years now and we see each other all the time on campus. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t miss the friendship we had and still hold a bit of hope that we could be friends again. But my friends back home are telling me not to. What should I do?