people who only resurface when they need something exhaust me
Had a buddy from college, we drifted apart over the years which is fine thats just life. Hadnt heard from him in like 9 months. No text, no reaction to a story, nothing. Radio silence.
Then last week i get a "yooo bro what's good, haven't talked in forever" and i swear my stomach just dropped because i already knew. Three messages in and he's asking if i could help him out financially because he's going through a hard time.
I happened to have some extra cash on me and i just sat there staring at my phone feeling this weird mix of anger and guilt at the same time. Anger because seriously?? THIS is when you decide i exist again. And guilt because somehow my brain was trying to make me feel like the bad guy for not wanting to.
I said no. Haven't heard back since, which again, tells you everything.
I dont even think he's a bad person i just think some people only think of you when they need something and dont even realize how that feels on the other end. And the fake "bro i missed you" warmup before the ask is somehow worse than if he just came out and said it directly.
anyway. needed to get that out