Are we too afraid of stangers ? How to make friends without seeming like a creep ?
Nharkom zin everyone,
I wanted to start by pointing out that I usually like the tunisian redditors and I don't consider them as average joes that you'd stumble across fi Tounes. That's why your opinion is valued.
Here is my situation. I(28M) have been away from Tunisia for the past decade and I have recently moved back. I have noticed that a lot have changed in the past years and the mentality has shifted in one way or another. Before, it used to be that you could just casually start talking to people on social media (mainly facebook cus I honestly think that Instagram has always been a hole filled with lies and pretentious people) and expend your horizon by just chatting with strangers where you'd get to know so much more about what's happening around and it used to work wonderfully in the past and I have made so many friends back in the days just like that. I have tried the same approach and noticed that it doesn't work anymore. People are just not interested in talking to strangers anymore and I have noticed that it is also the same irl where if you'd talk to someone in the street, in a store or in the gym they'd make you feel like you're super weird(regardless of the gender).
Are we slowly shifting toward a mindset where we just don't want any interactions with strangers ?
Maybe the problem is that I don't like going to crowded spaces like coffeeshops are nightclubs and that's where people want to get approached? What's your opinion about this ?
Since all of my friends are either abroad or married, how am I supposed to get to know new people of similar mindsets/ interests ?
Here are some of my interests:
Behavioural psychology, TV series, philosophical deep talks, thrillers, biking, tennis, irl adventures, getting out of my comfort zone, problem solving, anthropology and anything that is new and unusual.
If you have any suggestions about an existing community where I would fit or you feel that we could get along, feel free to reach out
Making friends when we were young used to be much much easier.It got tough but I still believe that there is a cool community that is hidden somewhere where I would belong. If there isn't one, I am willing to start one from scratch 😁
Have yourselves a great weekend.
Cheers !