The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉
I think people are being way too simplistic about Dorit.
To me she doesn’t come across as some mastermind liar or villain. She comes across like an overwhelmed midlife woman under massive stress who may genuinely be dealing with anxiety, ADHD-type dysregulation, hormonal changes, marital instability, public humiliation, parenting pressure etc.
A lot of the things people hate her for:
- overexplaining
- emotional reactions
- rambling
- defensiveness
- inconsistency
- attachment sensitivity
are also traits that show up in women with ADHD/burnout/perimenopause — especially under chronic stress.
Meanwhile PK had years of reported financial issues, gambling rumours, bankruptcies and instability BEFORE this separation, but somehow the audience conversation has become “Dorit is irresponsible and crazy.”
Look at PK’s financial and marital history. This pattern didn’t suddenly start with Dorit. He allegedly did very similar things in his first marriage too — the difference is he didn’t put his first wife onto reality TV and build an entire luxury/image-based lifestyle around her where keeping up appearances became part of the job.
Honestly, I see Dorit more as a pawn who got caught up in PK’s chaotic lifestyle and is now having to reassess and rebuild her entire life in public.
I truly feel PK wanted a trophy more than he wanted an equal partner, wife and mother. And if there’s one thing we can clearly see from the show, it’s that Dorit is a devoted and supportive parent.
Why is the woman always turned into the face of the dysfunction while the man gets framed as the detached rational one?
I also think Kyle heavily influenced the narrative this season. Calm delivery doesn’t automatically equal truth, and emotional dysregulation doesn’t automatically equal manipulation.
Dorit may absolutely have unhealthy coping mechanisms and spending habits, but that doesn’t mean she created the entire situation alone.
And if you fully buy into the PK/Kyle narrative that Dorit is just “crazy, materialistic and manipulative,” then honestly… “you don’t support other women, Bethenny.”