I only found Finn in 2025 unfortunately but I found them so inspiring right off the bat. And the more I watched them the less I doubted myself because of crossdressing. For over 25 years I have lived in shame about crossdressing and I tried so desperately to cut it out of myself. The last 6 years I spent growing a beard, putting on muscle mass (very hard for me), training my voice to sound super masc, training male body language and wearing suits. It felt great for a while. But dating never felt right. Thankfully, I had also grown out my hair (John Wick style). And when I discovered Finn it got me thinking. Is that other part of me really so bad? Is it really something I can just abandon? Then why does it feel so incredibly bad trying to cut it out? I had heard of transgender a long time ago but Finn got me discovering terms like genderfluid and bigender. When I read the meaning of bigender I was like "Wait. I'm not the only one who feels this way?". And on Dec 31st 2025 I swore to myself I'd tell someone in 2026. So, in early January I shaved off my beard (that was tough...) and mid-january I did tell someone. I told one my closest friends. Or well, I wanted to. But... I couldn't talk. My heart was racing. My body felt cold. I was shivering. I don’t think I've ever been this nervous before. I'm a goddamn public speaker and there I was, unable to talk. So, I decided to send my friend 3 pictures of me crossdressed while we were in Discord. And his reaction was very very positive. He was very calm, supportive and accepting. Now, all my friends know. And my sister. And a few colleagues. And every single one of them has been extremely supportive. I even dared to go outside like this for the first time recently. Without Finn I wouldn't even have dreamed of doing that. Especially not so soon. Their "I don't give a fuck" attitude is what inspired me. The whole "Yeah, I want to lool like a girl but I like my voice the way it is". Finn can also get embarassed sometimes (e.g. about being submissive) but they still show up as themselves. That's why I just want to say very clearly that all the people insulting them and complaining and whatnot have no idea what they're talking about. They're simply wrong. I don’t know Finn personally and I probably never will. I'm not saying they are flawless. Or an angel. But I do know that they helped me. And I am extremely grateful for that. Extremely grateful. That's all.
PS: Sorry for the long read. I'm on the autistic spectrum. I have a tendency for that.