Tldr: parents bought a car for my sibling after i shelled out 4k for a decent shitbox for myself
Surprise surprise i (20 m) dropped out of high-school early sophomore year so i got my GED real quick and started working when i was 17. I got my license but started driving on the road 8 months before i even got my permit, at this moment my mother was letting me use her car to drive to work and back. Obviously it gets frustrating having someone else use your own car more than you so she put it upon my father to help me get a car. his idea of a first car meant a absolute dumpster fire of a shitbox, a 2011 chevy Malibu that had been sitting in someones yard for about 5 years untouched. Granted it was free and free is in my price range so i thought maybe it would be a score- turns out it really wasn’t, if the car actually drove more than 3 times i mightve called that a win but here we are.
Fast forward a while and im 18 and have a girlfriend so im going out more, i am still using my mothers car at this point and the chevy is now rotting in our driveway. Now that im cutting into my mothers only time to escape the house on weekends and taking her only transportation she starts getting more and more annoyed that i still dont have my own car. I live in a small rinky dink town so theres no used car lots only dealerships with at minimum 9k cars junkyards and maybe the occasional overpriced jeep on the side of the highway, and i had absolutely no clue what i was doing when i was looking through facebook marketplace for a car. I will admit i totally could’ve been working harder to find a car but i was heavily distracted by the gorgeous woman that graced my life with her presence 😩 💦
My mom gets fed up after like 5 months of me driving my girl around and grabs me and my dad and drags us 2 hrs to the nearest city, we spend the entire day looking at lots and i pick one out and drive it back. it was like 4k and a couple hundred that my mom slid under the table for me. money at this point was not an issue for me i was pretty stacked in the savings so i just had to hope for the best. The car needed about 3k in random repairs and it’s absolutely going to be in the shop at some point in the next couple months. After all that plus my uncontrollable desire to spoil the shit out of my girlfriend i have maybe enough money in my savings to cover a surgery i got done earlier this year. (The peak of my savings was $1100)
A little bit later and my brother whos two years younger than me gets a car via donation from my grandparents and they make it pretty clear to my parents (allegedly) that only my brother can have this car, so my parents both drive about a solid day to and from my grandparents to pick up said car and surprise him with it.
Im not home when they do the grand reveal for my brother but later on i end up getting a text from my brother telling me theres a strange car in our driveway, me being the paranoid fucking goblin i am i jump into danger mode and crash downstairs to check. to which my brother taunts the idea of there being a stranger parked in our very private driveway until he shows me the keys to the car and admits its his new car.
The rage that exploded into my entire body oh my god im still feeing it typing this shit out, i congratulate my brother and just leave. My mother didnt seem surprised at all by my reaction when i was sobbing in anger on my way out, my girlfriend took me to the beach because we didnt have enough money for gas to go on an actual drive, she agrees and if she couldve she wouldve chewed them out damn just thinking about how mad she got at my parents for me I love her
I realize i mention money a lot and i figure this fun bit of context might good for my ramble
my brother has been told for the last 2 years that during summer he needs to get a summer job, there was a bigger emphasis on him getting one this most recent summer and he just didnt get one because he ‘forgot’. And for some reason they just gave up asking
i havent straight up asked but seeing as gas is 5 dollars for regular rn and the only money he gets is from good grades on report cards, theres no way my parents arent currently paying his gas expenses
During the beginning when my dad got me that first car, he made it seem like i already knew how to work on a car or let alone wanted to work on a car, and if not we would youtube it but unfortunately my dad raised a prissy and the most physical labor these hands do is cary my ladys bags. He did not like that i didnt want to spend more money to fix a car before i could drive it, and even after he said tough luck i still got my ass out there and paid for a brand new battery, cleaned out the random nests and surprising amount of nuts, got rid of all the mold on the inside of the car, did my best to fix the sound system but even after all of that the constant empty promises to work on the car together turned into the car going moldy again and me only driving it 2 times after that.
Oh and i just remembered me and my brother were supposed to share that first vehicle when he got his license and he was supposed to help me clean the mold and mildew out. Guess who helped me instead? My lovely fiance who vomits at the smell of vinegar but dealt with it anyway to help me.
I really dont know if i even have a leg to stand on with my defense here because my parents werent the ones to give my brother the car but maybe just the fact that he got a car for free that worked and i didnt was aggravating, im starting to wonder if im spoiled or if im wrong to expect at least somewhat of an equal treatment towards me and my brother? Its genuinely been like 5-6 months sense it happened and every time i think about it the disgusting urge to punch a wall comes back so obviously im not over it yet and its about time i should be.
Am i crazy chat? I need other peoples thoughts 😭 🙏
Also lmk if this breaks rule 1 i dont think it counts cause its says relationship advice, i just want to know i had a solid reason to be upset and im not just a whiny bitch boy