my friend keeps laying me off when she has to pay for something..
i wrote this fast because I'm seeing her later today and i need some kind of advice right now so this is all over the place
i (22F) and friend (21F) have been friends for some years now like since 7th grade. and around 2019 i started doing nails and in 2024 i started crocheting/knitting and when i was starting to take people for nails she was one of them and i always gave her what she wanted and then i would tell her the price and she would just forget to pay and I'm like its fine this ONE time. but it would happen here and there and she said she would pay and doesn't. i have talked to her about and said " if you don't have the money right now to pay the nails that's fine ill do your nails when you have the money" and then she kinda stopped getting her nails done which is fine getting your nails done isn't important.
anyways i also besides doing nails crochet and knit but i do it for fun not to sell. and so my friend asked me to crochet her a star onesie and she will pay since its a gift for someone in her family. i told her how much it would be smallest size being $85 i was like yeah sure i bought the pattern and started making it thinking she has a dead line which would be before the party day comes and i finishes making it from the first time i asked her "hey i finished making it when can you come by and pick it up since you wanted it before the party?" and he replied " ohhhhhh ummmmm I'm not not able to get it next week i can" i was like that's fine. the party came and went i asked her 5 times and i was like yeah I'm not going to bother at this point. i was thinking about giving it to one of my family members who's expecting. but i thought let me aske her one more time i was like " hey do you still want the onesie because i want it to be able to be used while the baby still fits" and she was giving me answers like "oop" and "umm" when she said oop i was like what does that mean like do you want it or not...
like i dead ass dint know what to do she's been acting like this ever since she started dating she's been putting off all her friends and doesn't really talk to us unless she needs something. even when she wanted to get her nails done again she was 100% sure she was getting them done and i was like cool what kind of nails do you want and she's like i was jade stone nails i was like oh cool yeah i can i just have to order the stuff and you are sure your getting them done right and she was like yeah i am. so i ordered the stuff and 1 day before i asked her are you still on for the nails and she said no and I'm like girl.... you could have told me long time ago why cant you say it yourself beforehand .
guys.. i know its a lot i just need help on how to approach her this things like this
i cant even talk to her about my own feelings and what I'm going through without her being like "ohhhhh" " ummm" " that sucks" " you should get out moreeeeeee"