removing ex’s on all platforms
Am I overthinking? Are my expectations not being met, or are they unreasonable?
My partner of eight months no longer follows their ex from years ago on Spotify, however they still follow my partner. My issue is since they have broken up, spotify has given the option to unfollow and remove a follower, so for years they made a choice to not remove their ex.
Context: I have been cheated on twice by pass partners. I have recently found a couple of photos of my partners ex (during separate times) in the car tucked in the back seat with other junk. They stated that they forgot. I have told them multiple times to remove anything with past ex’s before I find it and I still managed to find those photos. My partner also use to non stop mention their ex’s until I told them it bothered me.
I am bothered at the lack of consideration. Before I enter a new relationship I try and remove all photos physically or digitally so that my partner does not have to go through bitter feelings (I understand keeping important events like prom for the memories). I also unfollow and remove ex’s from everything, so I expect the same to be done for me. Especially when I voiced my views and they know my past. Circling back to the spotify thing, I joked around when we first started talking abt who was following them and they said it was old friends… did not mention to me that one of the “friends” was their ex.
I know that if I confront them about it the response would be “I forgot”.. but do you really forget? They dated for three years…
Before I start confronting I would like to hear opinions on whether or not this is something worth bringing up or breaking up over?