AITA for getting angry at my wife (42F) for swapping bodies with my son’s friend (19M)?
I’m pretty old-school (45M). I mostly use my phone as a flashlight, for calls, and to read Reddit news. I’m not really into all this modern tech stuff like AI, games, or those new “body swap” apps.
Recently, though, my wife (41F) saw a TV report about those apps and became obsessed with trying one with me. I told her absolutely not. For all I know, those things could give you cancer, steal your information, or leave you with some insane hidden charge in your phone bill. I’m not that innocent to belive such thing as a “free app.”
Last Friday, though, I started noticing my wife acting strange. She almost tripped over herself just walking through the house. Her makeup looked terrible, like she’d suddenly forgotten how to put it on. She kept staring at herself in the mirror for hours, half-dressed, taking selfies with her phone. Then one night I walked into our bedroom and caught her doing something she would never normally do alone… let’s just say it was highly intimate and definitely not something I wanted uploaded to the internet.
At first I thought maybe she was just tired or stressed, but then she forgot my middle name when a delivery driver asked for it. After 20 years of marriage she forgot my name?! that honestly scared me. I started wondering if she was having some kind of medical issue.
So Monday morning, when she finally seemed back to normal, I asked if she’d been feeling okay and whether she wanted to see a doctor. She immediately got nervous and tell me she is feeling fine, but after two decades together, I know exactly when she’s lying. Honestly, I was worried maybe she’d had an affair or something.
Then she confessed.
Apparently, she spent the entire weekend swapped into the body of my son’s best friend (let’s call him “William”).
For context, my son is away at college now in another state, and William is actually his roommate. They’ve been friends since middle school. So imagine my shock realizing that for the last three days I’d been living with him while believing he was my wife. The other day I almost kissed him!
And the thought of him walking around in my wife’s body, staring at himself naked, touching her body… It makes my blood boil.
After she told me, we had the biggest fight of our marriage. She says I’m overreacting and that she only did it because she was curious, and blame me because I refused to try the app with her. She also says William was curious too, and that he was the only person she knew who would actually agree to swap with her. Apparently they even convinced themselves it could somehow help her visit our son at college “without taking a flight.”
Now she’s acting like I’m the bad guy because I got angry instead of immediately supporting her emotionally. Meanwhile, I feel like she turned our entire family into some bizarre science experiment and expects me to pretend this is all normal.
I honestly feel betrayed. I’m exhausted, deeply unsettled, and terrified this could happen again, especially because I’ve never actually heard my wife say she wouldn’t do it again. .
At the same time, part of me wonders if none of this would’ve happened if I’d just agreed to try the app with her in the first place. Maybe I'm the one to blame?
AITA?