Here’s my story, a guy flirted with me in my dms & I knew he flirted with everyone so I never took it seriously. We also became friends then , whenever he found a gf he’d ghost me even tho we were friends & he’d keep asking to meet and I’d not. Later I gotta know he has a gf & this girl is very pretty & out of his league .
He never contacted me after one night & I was in disbelief he has her but I accepted it and moved on . Initially he looked okayish, one day I saw him at an event & he looked decent and good for the first time to me , since then I started having thoughts . Whole of my 2024 was suicidal cause I didn’t wanna keep having the thoughts & I googled about limerence but didn’t feel like one to me ,
2025 was much better but it was still there. He infact moved diff countries with this girl which is impossible doing in our town we’re from a small place and I was still stuck.
The point is I never had the urge to talk to him , meet him, touch him , or any old memories I wanted to relive . Just the thoughts of him that day I saw him looking good & then thoughts of them together as an ideal couple. 2026 is much better , he got engaged and I didn’t even care that much I was like good for him , he has nothing in him anyways & 4-5 months after doing okay it hit me when I saw him in a shirt dancing , and it replays in my mind and I go back to questioning I like him? I loved him? Couldn’t have him? Should’ve said yes? I had a bf at that time while this limerence phase , he knows tooo.
Tell me what is it ? Cause in real life I don’t care he’s getting married either . For months it’s not there and it hits and stays for days , weeks or another month .