Long story short(er): About two years ago, someone on our team was removed for a time due to a misdemeanor arrest and some other mental health issues. There was (sort of) church discipline, we were told to not discuss the situation, and, for the most part, the gossip was minimal.
Except, this person did NOT stop talking. Confessing to everyone who would listen things that weren’t disclosed to leadership from the start, airing dirty laundry about their marriage in very public spaces, etc.
After a year, the then music minister was asked to bring her back on the team, but he declined, citing this person’s behavior and lack of accountability taken. He was then told to retire. (Reasons given were not this specific situation, but the timing was curious.)
Now, we have a new director, who is fine, but this person is back. And I’m having a hard time, mostly because of things I heard them say, behavior I’ve observed, etc. Also my spiritual gifts are wisdom and discernment…so I’m always suspicious. 😆
I know we’re all forgiven sinners, but honestly I struggle to find true repentance. I think there are some leaders who want this person to be “fixed” so they can feel like they were part of the fixing, if that makes sense.
Add to that this person’s talent, and emotionalism, and you get all the feels, if you get my drift.
I really feel like I need an extended break because I cannot seem to get over this and I don’t feel like any of this is really my business to address? But also God has been dealing with me and my lack of perseverance?
How do you know when you need to step back?