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The discourse online about BTS possibly marrying or “soft launching” a partner cuz of what taejinjoon said on live feels unnecessary. Either people are panicking at the thought or trying too hard to act like they are “accepting” of it or being mad that the guys are talking about this more frequently lately.

If anything I think the reason the guys keep talking about marriage a lot lately is cuz of the pressures of society to get married by 30. They mentioned this themselves. And considering they’re public figures, it probably is isolating more when you keep getting asked questions “when will you marry already”. I’m not Korean but I am from Asia and it’s pretty common to get an existential crisis over marriage prospects even if you yourself don’t want to marry or feel neutral about it. It’s ingrained in all of us. It’s also why they keep bringing up comparisons to their friends who are married already— and we know that in Korea the topic of marriage is super touchy online.

I just feel armys think too much about BTS having a partner. Both the ones who want to be upset about it and the ones who want to show off they accept. Feels like the latter baits the former by being assumptive and the former overreacts to the latter while also being assumptive.

Meanwhile these are 7 people we don’t even know in person to be microanalyzing like this.

Edit: it’s nice to see some of you support the idea of the guys settling down, but I think a few of you are missing my point. The people who anti the guys having partners are bad— yes — but so are the people trying to constantly speculate in an invasive way or wish for them to reveal partners for a “fandom cleanse”. No supportive partner wants to be seen as the reason behind their partner’s fandom being split apart. That’s an insane pressure to be putting on a person you know even less of. Scapegoating BTS and their partners’ relationship for a few hahahas over delusional fans is the exact selfish behaviour I’m also calling out along with the people that hate the idea of them not being single. Both sides are putting words in their mouths whenever they discuss a simple thing as marriage in their 30s.

I wanted to start a discussion on fandom culture. People have a tendency of painting armys as a monolith or some kind of fandom that exists in vaccum. When we know that’s not true— a lot of discourses armys have (both negative and positive) are mirrored in other fandom spaces too.

I’ve been part of other kpop fandoms and I can definitely confirm that topics like music likeability, nostalgia bias, solo stanning, brand deal fanwars, line distribution, over victimising, panic over dating rumours, over reading faves’ words— are super common too.

So let’s discuss this. What are some topics you have seen in your experience in other fandoms? Did you get tired seeing it again? Or did you feel you now know how to deal with it because of your experience as an army?

Or is it vice versa— your experience in another fandom helped you deal with the army experience better?

Feel free to mention from any fandom btw— whether that’s kpop, western pop (or any music fandom), anime, movies, games, tv shows etc