OK, so I know I sound like that crazy jealous ex but it’s not what it sounds, this man is legitimately horrible like imagine every terrible thing someone could do to them and he’s probably done it to me, but he was my first boyfriend we started dating when I was freshly 16 and he was 20 and we were together for five years through that I’ve been humiliated abused, mentally and physically and cheated on. I don’t think I can get into the graph of it but truly Satan himself and I honestly wouldn’t be surprised to see him in a news report with how violent he can get. Me being naïve stayed quiet. I didn’t tell anyone what was happening because I didn’t realize how bad it was till I was out and he’s so good at hiding in front of other people psychopaths level good. And now I see him at parties with all of his friends and they have no idea and it kind of makes me sick. They don’t know what a horrible person they’re hanging out with and if he does start seeing someone new, I’m scared for them honestly because I’ve been petrified for five years and now I’m free, but who’s next because he’s not gonna get better because he doesn’t see anything wrong in his behaviour and he hides it from everyone else.
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Me 21 female and my ex 25 male have been separated for 6 months no contact. We started dating when I when I had just turned 16 and he was 19 almost 20( red flag number one) . Now I have no interest in him at all in fact he disgust me, but I just wanted to get this off my chest as stuff is crazy. We were together for 5 years and i swear the last 4 were just a hope and a dream that things would change (spoiler alert they did not). I just wanna tell you a few points of what happened and any questions I will answer fully .
First when we first got together he told me he goes after women who remind him of his mom not just personality wise looks his mom is a thicker woman with brown hair and blunt bangs. Can you guess what I look like?
Second, he would get belligerent drunk to the point he would piss himself multiple times during one of these occasions he proceeded to scream at me and how I was a horrible person and I would be a terrible mother because I was crying while on my hands and knees, cleaning up his piss.
Third, some little things before we get to the craziest stuff, we once gotten into a screaming match where he threatened to kick me out of the car because I wouldn’t throw stuff out the window and litter, he also wouldn’t let me wear heels and I wasn’t allowed to go to this pizza place because it was his exes favourite reminder him and his ex dated for three months we were together for five years. Also, on my birthday, he threw himself a Mexican themed party and proceeded to scream and break up with me for two hours now all of that alone would be enough to break up with someone. But I guess I was just so delusional towards the end of our relationship, though he started getting more physical breaking things around me, throwing things shattering my family photos. And when these events would happen, he would blame his alter personality that he called by his father‘s name, and it was him who actually did all the bad things. It wasn’t my boyfriend. It was this alter personality, and he would get into the corner and morph like he was in split to add onto this fight club was his favourite movie. A week before we broke up we went out and he was excessively drinking too much as he does. All of his friends had already left the bar and it was just him alone in the bar was about to close, kicking him out yet he didn’t want to leave so he decided to take that out on me and hit me as hard as he could when we gone to the cab, then proceeded to blame it all on me when we got home I called his mom to come get him, and when she arrived, she had to tackle him off of me as he was gripping my throat a few days after that I talked to him and we decided to break up because he clearly wasn’t mentally well. I started seeing a new fella a few weeks after because I’m not wasting any more time after I wasted five years with that numb skull he finds out about this coincidentally starts dating the guy that I’m seeing his ex-girlfriend and on a random Tuesday calls me and decides to tell me that he cheated on me when we were together at a massage parlour and paid for a hand job. Why he decided to tell me that after weeks of us being split up, I don’t know, but since then he’s been completely blocked on everything and I don’t know what he’s up to. He’s probably in a ditch somewhere cause I also forgot to mention, he started doing cocaine right before we broke up too, so yeah, very happy I’m clear of all that was a mess. Just wanted to get you off my chest and let you know that it can always be worse and if you’re with a piece of shit man leave his ass.
Me 21 female and my ex 25 male have been separated for 6 months no contact. We started dating when I when I had just turned 16 and he was 19 almost 20( red flag number one) . Now I have no interest in him at all in fact he disgust me, but I just wanted to get this off my chest as stuff is crazy. We were together for 5 years and i swear the last 4 were just a hope and a dream that things would change (spoiler alert they did not). I just wanna tell you a few points of what happened and any questions I will answer fully .
First when we first got together he told me he goes after women who remind him of his mom not just personality wise looks his mom is a thicker woman with brown hair and blunt bangs. Can you guess what I look like?
Second, he would get belligerent drunk to the point he would piss himself multiple times during one of these occasions he proceeded to scream at me and how I was a horrible person and I would be a terrible mother because I was crying while on my hands and knees, cleaning up his piss.
Third, some little things before we get to the craziest stuff, we once gotten into a screaming match where he threatened to kick me out of the car because I wouldn’t throw stuff out the window and litter, he also wouldn’t let me wear heels and I wasn’t allowed to go to this pizza place because it was his exes favourite reminder him and his ex dated for three months we were together for five years. Also, on my birthday, he threw himself a Mexican themed party and proceeded to scream and break up with me for two hours now all of that alone would be enough to break up with someone. But I guess I was just so delusional towards the end of our relationship, though he started getting more physical breaking things around me, throwing things shattering my family photos. And when these events would happen, he would blame his alter personality that he called by his father‘s name, and it was him who actually did all the bad things. It wasn’t my boyfriend. It was this alter personality, and he would get into the corner and morph like he was in split to add onto this fight club was his favourite movie. A week before we broke up we went out and he was excessively drinking too much as he does. All of his friends had already left the bar and it was just him alone in the bar was about to close, kicking him out yet he didn’t want to leave so he decided to take that out on me and hit me as hard as he could when we gone to the cab, then proceeded to blame it all on me when we got home I called his mom to come get him, and when she arrived, she had to tackle him off of me as he was gripping my throat a few days after that I talked to him and we decided to break up because he clearly wasn’t mentally well. I started seeing a new fella a few weeks after because I’m not wasting any more time after I wasted five years with that numb skull he finds out about this coincidentally starts dating the guy that I’m seeing his ex-girlfriend and on a random Tuesday calls me and decides to tell me that he cheated on me when we were together at a massage parlour and paid for a hand job. Why he decided to tell me that after weeks of us being split up, I don’t know, but since then he’s been completely blocked on everything and I don’t know what he’s up to. He’s probably in a ditch somewhere cause I also forgot to mention, he started doing cocaine right before we broke up too, so yeah, very happy I’m clear of all that was a mess. Just wanted to get you off my chest and let you know that it can always be worse and if you’re with a piece of shit man leave his ass.