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Trying for 6 months technically

First time posting on Reddit, kind of a long post, please bare with me. My husband and I have been trying for 6 months now. We started on December 2025 and January the tests came back all positive and thought how blessed we were. 3 weeks after finding out I was pregnant I started spotting and ended up being and ectopic pregnancy. Went to the ER and got Methotrexate (just one dose). February got my period, but had to wait that cycle because of the MTX. March we resumed TTC and haven’t gotten pregnant yet. Everyone I open to about our ectopic and TTC tells me that it will happen when I stop thinking about it, or stop trying, but how do I stop myself from thinking about how much we desire to start our family. Also have been so mentally draining for me since January 5 women around me have gotten pregnant on their first or second try and even though I am happy for them, I feel something on my stomach, like grief. Anyways, it’s a lot but I want to ask, do I need to forget about it so I can get pregnant?

I’m mentally exhausted and need some words of wisdom in this situation, thank you!!

Trying for 6 months

First time posting on Reddit, kind of a long post, please bare with me. My husband and I have been trying for 6 months now. We started on December 2025 and January 2026 the tests came back all positive and thought how blessed we were. 3 weeks after finding out I was pregnant I started spotting and ended up being and ectopic pregnancy. Went to the ER and got Methotrexate (just one dose). February got my period, but had to wait that cycle because of the MTX. March we resumed TTC and haven’t gotten pregnant yet. Everyone I open to about our ectopic and TTC tells me that it will happen when I stop thinking about it, or stop trying, but how do I stop myself from thinking about how much we desire to start our family. Since January, 5 women around me have gotten pregnant on their first or second try and even though I am happy for them, I feel something on my stomach, like grief for me.
Anyways, it’s a lot but I want to ask, has anyone gotten pregnant while really wanting to start a family? Or do I need to forget about it so I can get pregnant?

I’m mentally exhausted and need some words of wisdom in this situation, thank you!!