u/Abu_Kofta_al-Hungry

Mixed gender pools and gyms.

Salam. I am 23m revert. Is it permissible to swim in my apartment pool? There are women there are in bikinis and other immodest clothing. I do not look at them and take my glasses off so that they are blurry even if I catch a glimpse by mistake. I am usually focused on exercising so they aren't on my mind except background discomfort being next to random women who are in underwear. I like swimming because it is a good exercise for me, especially since I find running difficult due to injuries and don't currently own a bike. I don't really see how it's different that a mixed gender gym (only options in town), since many women there are dressed similar to a pool. Minimally better, and likewise, I am focused on my exercise there as well. And both environments are sensitive environments. Staring isn't tolerated and if you do stare, they are likely to call you out, or their female friends, or if there are men they might confront you and tell you not to be creepy and make you leave. Are these settings permissible

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u/Abu_Kofta_al-Hungry — 4 days ago

Missing fajr because chronic sleep deprivation

Assalamu alaikum I am m23 revert. Because I am poor, I am forced to live with the kuffar. Many kuffar have no commitments in the morning, instead staying up engaged in intoxicants until near the time of fajr, particularly if they are young. Therefore, every night I am woken up repeatedly due to the sounds of my roommate "ahh AHH AHHHH OOHHHH GET THE MED PACK WHAT ARE YOU DOING BRO GRAB THE MED PACK" with his drunk and stoned friends, huddled around a video game console. I've measured, it regularly reaches 45 decibels in my room and a few times an hour up to 60 decibels.

Then my other roommate forced a dog in to the house for his "disability". He leaves her in the living room all night and she barks 4 or 5 times a night, each time waking me up. Then he usually starts pacing around talking to himself loudly and laughing loudly. Sometimes he'll stand outside of my door and talk to himself. It makes me deeply uncomfortable and keeps me up for 45 minutes after because it makes me stressed and feel like I am being watched. He is overall creepy vibes. He occasionally jokes about women in a dehumanizing and sexually aggressive ways and paces around talking to himself all night. Not exactly comfortable vibes. Then he also sometimes decides to play his guitar at 3 AM in the living room.

Point being, my sleep is disrupted several times and hour from 10 PM until 2 to 4 AM depeding on the night. I struggle with waking for fajr. What do I do in this case? I can't afford to move. I've discussed but they don't care.

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u/Abu_Kofta_al-Hungry — 5 days ago