Count your blessings
I got in a car accident a week back, nothing too bad but my car is wrecked. Someone didn't obey the traffic rules and wasn't paying attention to the road and drove right into my car, the front, so it was quite a crash. Ofcourse when it just happened, I was furious. "How can you not see the traffic signs, I had the right to go first through this narrowed street, its clearly stated on the road!"
My precious car wrecked, not like it was a very expensive car but it doesn't need to be very expensive for it to have value. So my first emotion was anger, then it became sadness very soon and then i realised something more important. I was okay. I had not injury, some sore muscles but that's not like threatening or altering. And the other person was okay too, which made me relieved. He said he had some bad news and that explained his absence maybe at that moment.
I was at peace very soon with the situation, I accepted what happened and counted my blessings. I believe that without stoicism, and some Christian influence, i wouldn't have stayed so calm maybe and would've let my emotions take control. It is a emotional situation nonetheless and I miss my car, I was very proud of it and happy with it.
When I hear people say things like "you could've made your muscle pain sound worse and gotten something out of it" I just get disgusted because of their way of thinking. Is that what it is about for you? The fact that it ended pretty good is not enough? It is money that is most important? I can't get my mind to understand that way of thinking. To me it seems a bit sad. I am glad that I don’t think that way and that i can have my emotions under control, for the most part.