u/Able-Ad2885

My friend was telling me about her tastes in arts and cinema to which she expressed that she dislikes some genres. Then, she went on to say: "This is going to sound a little racist but I don't like movies that are predominantly about slavery around African Americans. Why do they have to play the victim? They aren't the only ones. Also, their mannerisms in other movies I don't like. Jewish people and other races have been through slavery as well. I like European movies." She went on highlighting movies that are more predominantly white, art as well and make other movies or art including those from our motherland and Latino countries less meaningful without even giving them a chance. I said fair, but I told her that she should express her likes in other ways since what she said wasn't as educated at first. Second, there's a plethora of films in all cultures that break stereotypes. Third, I am brown and she's white. I told her about my own experiences of feeling judged by people who just took a look at me and assumed the worst. She said she didn't mean any harm; she's just expressing her likes and dislikes, and she shouldn't feel judged by them. Which was not my intention at all but I pointed to her on multiple occasions that is the way we say things that can offend others but how we say them and how we respond when others feel offended by it. I had a prior experience with her before where she fully apologized. But I felt this time it wasn't the case.