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Why do bad things seem to happen all at once?
Why is it that when one bad thing happens, everything else suddenly follows?
Why does the world feel colorless—black and white—when we’re sad?
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In this post, I’ll talk about it from a psychological perspective, with a bit of science.
Think about the last time something bad happened early in your day.
It felt like the entire day was ruined, right? Your mood dropped, and everything else that happened afterward only seemed to confirm that it was a “bad day.”
Most of us have lived through a day like that—where it feels like all problems decided to show up at once.
But on the other hand, think about when something good happens.
A happy piece of news, a high exam score, or even a small moment that made you smile. Suddenly, the whole day feels better, lighter… almost perfect.
So what does this mean?
Why does luck—good or bad—feel like it comes in waves?
The answer is simple:
You are under the influence of your emotions, and you start seeing reality through them.
But what does that actually mean?
When you feel sadness, happiness, or fear—for any reason—you don’t see reality as it truly is. You see it through the “lens” of your emotions.
When you’re sad, you start noticing only the negative side of things. Your emotions begin to cloud your thinking, and your mind starts interpreting reality based on how you feel, not what is actually true.
Think about the last time you were extremely angry.
How did you see things? How did you react?
You probably acted in ways that didn’t reflect reality—maybe you said things you didn’t mean, hurt someone with your words, all driven by anger.
And once the anger faded, you looked back and regretted it. You wished it never happened.
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Another important point:
When your mind believes something, it starts looking for evidence to prove it.
In psychology, this is called confirmation bias.
Here’s a simple example:
A wife starts to suspect her husband because he’s been coming home later than usual.
After a few days, she begins to notice that he seems distant and less attentive.
She starts questioning him over small things, accusing him, constantly telling him he’s neglecting her. The relationship slowly gets worse… and eventually moves toward separation.
But here’s the reality:
The husband was not cheating. He was simply going through a stressful time at work.
However, once the doubt entered her mind, her brain began searching for “proof.”
Normal behaviors started to look suspicious. Her mind stayed in a constant state of alert.
And because of her reactions—irrational from the actual reality—the relationship deteriorated… until her fear became real.
This shows how emotions can distort reality, how the mind searches for evidence to support that distortion, and how our actions change in ways that end up proving what we already believe.
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So what’s the solution?
We’ve talked a lot about how emotions can distort reality and lead to irrational behavior.
But the solution is actually much simpler than the problem.
Understand your emotions.
Trace them back to their source.
Don’t act like a lawyer defending your thoughts—be a judge.
Be fair. Be neutral.
Now that you understand how emotions affect your perception, you’re already one step closer to solving the problem.
One of the biggest mistakes is ignoring emotions and their causes—especially in relationships.
If the wife in the example had simply expressed her feelings, instead of letting doubt take control, things might have been different.
She would have seen reality more clearly, instead of through fear and suspicion.
Her rational mind would have guided her actions, and the problem could have been solved logically.
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I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.
And I’ll end with this:
“Reality didn’t turn dark… you just put on dark glasses.”